i'm in love for the second time.

[le capitan]

got my first kiss.
got myself a girlfriend that lives 6 hours away.
cant get her out of my head.
and now i think we're over, but hell if i know.

i fucking love life...


(I apologize for the shit post)

[DeadlyFreeze]

Ah chemical emotions, give it time it will fade. lol

[Jason Manley]

Originally Posted by DeadlyFreeze

Ah chemical emotions, give it time it will fade. lol

just gotta keep working on yourself and not think about whether its over or not. such things can come and go like the breeze. such is life.

the real thing doesnt fade...not if you are both on the same page...and keep lighting the fires. at least it can last a long friggen time. I see it as wine...only improving with age.

six hours away...that doesnt work too well usually...so just enjoy it as it comes and goes and dont fret over any of it.

I watched an old blind blues man tell the crowd at his show to never let go of love...but to just let it be...and thats why he had love in st lous, san francisco, new orleans, new york, chicago and miami.


J

[Justin.]

I have a friend who lives near me, in Florida. Her Boyfriend is in North Carolina.

They have been together for over 3 years.

[DeadlyFreeze]

Anticipation is the best thing in life. The problem is when you finally get the thing you want you either find out its not what you expected or you want something better. Love is like that.

[Jason Manley]

Originally Posted by Justin Oaksford

I have a friend who lives near me, in Florida. Her Boyfriend is in North Carolina.

They have been together for over 3 years.

thats hardly being together. thats being apart.

[Justin.]

I hear what you're saying, though they spend about a 3 weeks with eachother every 2 months. But I get what you mean. Being literally together is so much different than just seeing eachother once and a while.

[Costau D]

hmmm. Reminds me, I havent fallin in love in years with anyone yet... *shrugs*

[CaptainInsano]

well a' salute, good for you.

6 hours is a quite a distance. That's like from LA to San Francisco.

It's propinquity... you're more likely to meet someone else, and spend more time with someone else, when you see them more often.

I don't mean to poop all over your happiness, but just... be careful.... long distance relationships rarely work, no matter how great you are together. Don't pour too much of your emotional spirit into this thing *just yet*. Make her deserve it, don't just give her your love and soul just because she kissed you.

[le capitan]

thanks guys. Turns out i still have the girl... Apperently my email was down and she messaged me several times.

I need to get myself less attached to her; I see that now. Still even with the distance, I want to make this work.

thanks again,

cheers,

[Burtzum]

glad things worked out for one of us

[Fellah.]

I fell in love with a girl, when I was 15 and told her I wanted to marry her some day. Some years later I met her again and we got married and still are after 13 years. Love is good stuff - hope you make it work!

[Jason Manley]

Originally Posted by Fellah.

I fell in love with a girl, when I was 15 and told her I wanted to marry her some day. Some years later I met her again and we got married and still are after 13 years. Love is good stuff - hope you make it work!

That's awesome.

[Sepulverture]

Originally Posted by Fellah.

I fell in love with a girl, when I was 15 and told her I wanted to marry her some day. Some years later I met her again and we got married and still are after 13 years. Love is good stuff - hope you make it work!

Originally Posted by Jason Manley

That's awesome.

^^^What he said.

[Brendan N]

yay for nails!

As Insano said, make her deserve her second kiss, and make her deserve a six hour trip .

Fellah - that IS awesome! I'm not sure why, but your story reminds me of that film, Big Fish.

[Fellah.]

Jason Manley, Sepulverture, Brendan N - thanks guys! I think its awesome too She is the one!

Now i have to see that movie, Brendan!

[CaptainInsano]

Fellah

wow! that's great! I'm really happy for you. Very inspirational.

I met a girl when I was a junior in college. We had psychology class together. I had a crush on her but didn't actually ask her out until 6 months before graduation. We dated for a few months and she was my first *everything* (date, kiss, etc...).

Well, I moved to Seattle and she moved to LA, each of us to pursue our dreams.

2 years pass...

I get a job offer in LA for an animator position, and I make contact with Her. Things are, at first, wonderful, and we date and see each other like we did before. This goes on for about 1.5 years. But she changed. The LA climate of money and status made her different. She left me for a guy she met from work, because he wears a suit, drives a BMW, and has a yatch. That was 6 months ago. As it turned out, she had been dating this guy for the past year.

I'm still busted up inside because of it. Not all relationships end like a fairy tale. I've had no desire to date other women, and have since become obsessed with attracting, seducing, and romanticizing women even though there is only one I want, and she'll never be mine again.

Like I said SSnails... don't put too much into it *right now* because I realized your love and your soul is something she has to deserve, not just get because she gave you the googly eyes.

[Fellah.]

CaptainInsano - I'm sorry to hear that, man! A friend of mine got divorced recently and it nearly destroyed him. Money is hard to compete with!

[Coinpurse]

Hey thats great! just make sure you don't make anything out to be more than what it really is. Early "love life" are usually filled with heart breaks, worst comes to worst just know that there are many out there. Keep digging and you'll find her eventually. Keep in contact with her!

cheers once again!

[Undertow]

Take this from a guy who just spent 5 years on active duty in the most deployed branch of the military. Long distance relationships are a pain in the ass. If you're not married just enjoy it while it lasts, if it's meant to work out you'll eventually get married. My wife and I beat the odds as a dual Navy couple who were both deployed multiple times during the course of our marriage. As an example we spent a combined total of 17 days together during the first year of marriage due to deployments. Keep the faith brother, and never close yourself off to other options if they become available (as long as you're single), life is too short to have regrets.

[AlexC]

[QUOTE=Jason Manley;1332266]That's awesome.[/QU

amen to that!
I think I have fallen in love but dont have the courage to approach the girl .
Such is life..

[Carnifex]

Originally Posted by AlexC

I think I have fallen in love but dont have the courage to approach the girl .
Such is life..

aye,i'm more often than not coming back to thinking about one too,but i'm afraid too...most of all because it would require a whole lot of relocating and reconsidering one's priorities...

oh and nails,happy you're happy atm. fellah,really awesome as many have said already.

[Justin.]

As long as we are all sharing...

I can't find a girl who likes me =\ I have absolutley no problem asking them out, I just can't find one that likes me "like that."


Fellah; Awesome

Nails; Good deal man =)

[Moai]

Jeepers creepers, it's been over a year since my last kiss.
Twice that since my last relationship.
Well, it's great to hear about yous guys's love stories, anyway.

[strych9ine]

Originally Posted by Justin Oaksford

I can't find a girl who likes me =\ I have absolutley no problem asking them out, I just can't find one that likes me "like that."

You just have to stop "liking them" from outside of their windows in the bushes. And put some pants on, man.

[Steph Laberis]

You've been given some great advice about long distance relationships. I speak from experience that they're riddled with challenges like no other relationship. There were 3,000 miles involved in mine and it was so easy to fill in the hundreds of gaps between us with fantasies about the other person (not neccessarily sexual fantasies, I am talking more of inventing who this other person really is because you can't experience them more closely or regularly).

In hindsight, I think I used the distance as a buffer to protect me from actual intimacy and you may or may not be doing that. Recently, as I have found in trying to work out a relationship with someone who lives 5 miles from me that it's a whole other ballgame and sort of forces me to face all of the things that a LDR had protected me from.

Be wary of the miles is all. It's too easy to lose yourself in the fantasies. It's hard enough to sort out how you feel about another person; knowing them primarily through AIM, the phone or emails makes that so much harder.

[Mr Man]

Hey I hope it all works out for you. Dont give up straight away just because its difficult, but be prepared if it gets more difficult.

Love is a funny thing. One of the hardest parts is when you realise you dont love someone anymore (due to certain circumstances.)

Man Im so glad im single right now. Im free with almost now worries.

[le capitan]

thanks all for the kind words and inspiration.

Through this whole miscommunication with my lady I realized I am getting attached too quickly and putting more into it than I should.

I think i'll be ok

also this makes me realize i just need to draw a hell of a lot more...