Wow dude.. Good luck.
go on with your life she did...get over here sooner than later if not one day she'll be married to some other guy and she will be expecting her first baby and you will still have feelings for here like some stalker lol.
Last edited by creeptool; November 29th, 2012 at 05:40 AM.
I concur, 500 Days of Summer is a really bad movie to watch if you're not in a good place, gets you all confused and makes you hate the girl.
The only reason you'd hate the female character after watching 500 DoS is because you're the kind of creeper who won't take no for an answer.
It's been a while since I saw that film, don't remember exactly why I did. I think it was more like how she did it rather than she did it and I related to her and realised I'm kinda doing the same and that made me feel bad about myself.
Glad to hear you made a decision and pulled the band-aid. If it makes things any easier, I think its time I finally told you - she and I were sleeping together for the last 4 months of your relationship and all she would do was bitch about how much of a sap she thought you were. I put up with it cus the sex was fantastic! But after a while it just got to be too much so I told broke it off.
Does that make it easier to get over her? Sometimes learning to hate has its uses.
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Hmmm I think you are overreacting. As long as you work hard and make lots of money, there will always be women interested in you.
'I need a bigger hammer...'
Had a similar thing happen to me. If you loved eachother dearly, I'm almost sure that you won't get over it unless you will find someone to love as much. It's good that there's a lot of awesome people, you just need to be lucky. And don't force anything. It's much more fun to be alone than with someone you don't actually like.
First bro I'm sorry that happened; secondly so I know you've finally cut it off properly after 7 months and probably loads of stuff has been figured out in the interim, but in case it helps you--
List of things that helped/are helping me:
- I think "taking care of yourself", as mentioned on the first page, is really important. It took me five months to finally start getting that you really have to be nice to yourself - that means gently taking yourself by the arm and guiding yourself away from wallowing in sadness etc. when it is no longer productive - treat yourself with the kindness you would a dear friend and work on helping yourself be happy and whole again
- Don't get angry at yourself for taking time to heal or make decisions you know you "should" have made but didn't have the heart to, it only makes things worse
- I had (still have somewhat) a lot of trouble letting go of the "maybe <improbable event> will happen" hope mentality. Letting go of that hope hurts and is horrendously difficult, but in the meantime training myself to put thoughts like that in a little mental box labelled "closed for now" has been helpful in keeping myself generally decent nstead of lost in a sea of "what if"s.
- It helped to have people to redirect my feelings towards, to assuage the "no one will ever compare" feelings that come with the first break up. They don't have to be romantic feelings. Find someone you'd really like to be friends with, or even just try to notice "oh this person is kind of cute I would really really love to draw that face" or something in the people around you.
- ...not talking, not seeing each other (on Facebook; twitter; blogging sites, ANYTHING) really worked wonders for me. Each time I took the no-communication thing a little further I could almost literally feel myself getting better. Set Facebook not to show status updates; get a browser extension to block her blog; block on Skype etc. etc. (YMMV but this seems to be a common piece of advice handed out online, and now I join the crowd)