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    Do you find your behavior and how you are perceived changes from person to person?

    I am absolutely schizoid.

    I've been working with the same people, for a long time. So I'm use to continuity....so lately with all these classes I've been taking I realize I act differently from person to person, class to class.......it's like being an actor trying to anticipate the audience, and you can bomb doing that.

    I know that kind of behavior can be destructive.

    Do you feel the way you act is formulaic? Are you the way you are all the time?

    Hey, I'm into these humanist questions...what can I tell ya?

    If you want to be an animator or a concept artist, you probably should discuss and study humanisms.

    Back to the question on hand:

    Do you feel the way you act is formulaic? Are you the way you are all the time?


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    Serious question. Serious answer.

    With people I don't know, I tend to react to cues from them for the initial contact, but this doesn't last long. With people I do know, I sound just like I do here...a little blunt, a little off the wall, a little sarcastic (but not to an extreme--probably "cynical" would be a better word), and a little...strange..for want of a better word. I can carry on five or six conversations at one time, and I often talk (and write) in a free-association-link kind of thing that unnerves some people. Because of this, I often resort to humor to soften the "intensity."

    Bluntly, I leave some people with the firm belief that I'm a lunatic...and this seems to be consistent across the board after the first five minutes of dancing around. A kind of "what-you-see/hear-is-what-you-get-so-run-like-hell" thing...and it's definitely not done consciously...

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    Conversations are pre-made in your head, your brain calculates you responses according to previous experiences or opinions you might have developed or that someone might have impose on you.

    For that matter if in your opinion a determined group is this or that, or if you are simply scared of the people of a determined area, your response will be set accordingly, either to preserve your ideals or to protect you from phisical/ phiscological harm.

    Thats why is perfectly natural to be rude and vague with people you dont know, you dont know how to respond to them effectivly, or you just are not interested in knowing them ( probably becuase you already have a strong social group withou any known openings XD)

    Also the reason why male/female teenages without previous experience with the opposite gender are considered "shy" and barely talk, they dont undestand the addressing group and have almost zero pre-made speech in their heads.

    Same for any other case, including racists or political/ religious fanatics talking to any other peoson from outside their group.

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    In my head there is a singular sound to how to speak...when i am around some of my "thug-ish" roommates, its often hard to keep myself from emulating some of their expressions.

    "niggas be wantin to roll, but niggas aint got no funds!"

    Yea yea, i think its funny now, but stick me in a room with them long enough and it scares me how much of that starts to pop into my vocabular. Reading a well written book can help though. I am reading The Hitchhiker's Guide To the Galaxy at the moment so I often catch myself joking around like the characters do in the book...so only my sudo-intellectual friends get the jokes.

    Well, in any case, you get the point. It can be rough for you to keep a rock solid persona when you are instinctivaly adapting every step you take.

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    I try to be myself allways .. sometimes more sometimes less .. & allways friendly .

    I have the feeling I read my own comment somewhere before or heard it in some crappy film .

    Deja-vu :-)

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    Its alright to be a little insecure about how you should act based on what you feel the person sees you as. I think everyone is a little like that. It should become more comfortable as we grow older. For myself, most times I am too slow to react or act properly so over the years I accepted that being unable to "act" in social situations is just me. I don't act, nor pretend, and I call a spade a spade. Hence most friends who don't know me very well or new friends believe I'm not a very "feeling" person which is true coz I tend to hide my emotions.

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    I am the way I am all the time. Just a quiet, shy, boring, reclusive person. But I like it. It's a preference. Although I don't mind socializing with others, but that's only when it's appropriate or necessary. It's also ironic that I socialize, but at the same time I feel like I have social anxiety disorder. I also am humorous at times but very rarely, whether intentional or not. It's nice to make people laugh though.

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    Noserider, that is an interesting question.

    I have a degree in Psychology and learned a little bit about personality-types. Most psychologists agree with what you question. Yes, people act different around different types of people. For instance, when with your friends, you are a slightly different person than when you are with your parents. Your "persona," as they called it, changes because the nature of your relationship changes with different people. When you're talking to your boss, you choose different subjects of conversation, and put on a different front, than when you are with your girlfriend.

    That being said... when is a person his, or herself, in the natural state? I would likely say when you are by yourself, with no one around, are you in your most natural "persona." But I think a lot of people would dissagree and say that being alone is just yet another persona-type.

    Hmmmmm :thinking.....

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    Quote Originally Posted by ParkerD
    When you're talking to your boss, you choose different subjects of conversation, and put on a different front, than when you are with your girlfriend.
    I'd bloody hope so! I don't think you'd be advancing your career much if you said "So, how about some hot sex tonight, baby?" to your boss...

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    interesting thread.

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    Quote Originally Posted by MoP
    I'd bloody hope so! I don't think you'd be advancing your career much if you said "So, how about some hot sex tonight, baby?" to your boss...
    Well, if you could and all went well, you career would have a bright future, no?

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    You have different relationships with different people, so it's only natural that you don't act exactly the same to everyone. Ating very differently is something else though.

    I really enjoy different accents, and when I'm around people I pick up the accent fast, often without noticing it, in the end I just keep what I like and toss out what I don't .

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    Quote Originally Posted by Ilaekae
    Serious question. Serious answer.

    With people I don't know, I tend to react to cues from them for the initial contact, but this doesn't last long. With people I do know, I sound just like I do here...a little blunt, a little off the wall, a little sarcastic (but not to an extreme--probably "cynical" would be a better word), and a little...strange..for want of a better word. I can carry on five or six conversations at one time, and I often talk (and write) in a free-association-link kind of thing that unnerves some people. Because of this, I often resort to humor to soften the "intensity."

    Bluntly, I leave some people with the firm belief that I'm a lunatic...and this seems to be consistent across the board after the first five minutes of dancing around. A kind of "what-you-see/hear-is-what-you-get-so-run-like-hell" thing...and it's definitely not done consciously...
    Take Ilaekae's reply, put the behaviour on steroids and caffene, multiply it to a factor of 6, and apply it across the board to all relationships, personal or not, and you pretty much have me summed up.
    I Yam what I Yam, and I am a Yam...I do not gladly tolerate fools and idiots, but will cut anyone slack if they have a good heart, regardless their stupidity...But, I will still tell them they are an idiot, even if I love them (and sometimes especially because I do). It's only when people get to know ME that they can discern those subtle shifts in personality that relate to specific individuals or situations, but by and by, I am the same outspoken, brash, funny, intellectual, yet personable and entertaining asshole day in, day out, whether I am talking to friends, strangers, my cats, or even myself. I wouldn't say it is done consciously, as much as it IS a cultivated attitude that I have spent many years refining...

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