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    Online friends vs Real Life Friends.

    I was talking with my roommate about this.. and i thought it was an interesting subject to bring up here. Now I may not chat on AIM with anyone from CA, but you guys all are high up in my book. But the friends i have made online I tend to be MUCH closer to mentally and emotionally then in real life.

    Typically, men and women online have no gender for me. I talk to people and when i open up to them, they open up to me. But i real life.. men refuse to open up, and women tend to assiciate love with this. So i have made some women in real life fall for me by being open, and made a lot of guy friends uncomfortable with it. Online though, everything seems to just be cool.



    How has this been for you all? Have you found yourselves getting closer to people in real life or online? Honestly i think it is interesting how the same person changes once typing on AIM vs talking to a person face to face.

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    Online is the easy way out.
    Go outside! The sun isn't thaaaat bright

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    I dont mean as an escape, just comparing people in the different situations.

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    I´ve never gotten so close with anyone on the internet. I think it´s that way because I like talking to people better face to face, I can have more interaction on a diffrent level, a level which you can´t have by voice/IM conversations.

    I think you open up to people on the internet better because you will probaly never see them and therefore you can say anything you want. You will probaly never have to take the consequences.

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    Profil's right, I think, although I tend to act the same online as I would in real life.

    90% of the people I have on IM lists are people I know locally or have met in person before, anyway.

    That doesn't mean there aren't a whole bunch of you I think are really cool around here, though!

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    My friends from real-life all owe me money.

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    i hate all you essy cunts, online or off

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    Hmmm.

    I think I value my "IRL" relationsips more than the ones I maintain with online friends, with one or two exceptions. Like Mop, most people on my buddy list are people I have met IRL or are my friends already.

    My stronger online relationships are not limited to just the internet though; eventually there are phonecalls or Ichat to help bridge the gap and well, people are people, no matter how you meet them.

    As for "open-ness", it's absolutely easier for me to be more open with an online friend than with a friend in person. Not having a face-to-face takes away a lot of pressure and fear of judgment for me. I need to work on that... interpersonal skills are a good thing and shouldn't get rusty.

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    I find online conversations very different from real life conversations. There is so much more you can say online and your thoughts are clearer without emotion, you have references and you have time to say what you need/want the way you want to without errors (things can be edited refined and honed to illustrate precisely what you mean - I am not a great public speaker so thus I can appreciate the freedom I get from being able to write things down in a consice manner without emotions getting in the way)- best of all you don't get interrupted! I find that intellectually I am closer to people online (with a few exceptions) but emotionally I am closer to people in real life. There is nothing better than to sit around with old friends and joke and laugh and feel their life, their warmth, their honesty and the sincerity of the situation. It's very refreshing.

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    I've had cyber-sex with everyone on here, and none of you even know!

    (why does the perv look like a nerd?)

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    Quote Originally Posted by LaPalida
    I find online conversations very different from real life conversations. There is so much more you can say online and your thoughts are clearer without emotion, you have references and you have time to say what you need/want the way you want to without errors...
    True, but there is that fatal flaw of online conversations where sarcasm is IMPOSSIBLE to detect. I've started arguments, hurt feelings and overall gotten into trouble because I can't read sarcasm online. There needs to be a universal font we can all use that identifies any statement as sarcastic!!!

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    Quote Originally Posted by jfwalls
    I've had cyber-sex with everyone on here, and none of you even know!

    (why does the perv look like a nerd?)

    when you fly solo i think the correct term is "cyber-masturbation".

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    That totally reminded me of this thing i found while trawling for face refs...

    Online friends vs Real Life Friends.

    on the topic: cybar friends dont borrow your stuff and forget to give it back

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    I find that whatever my fleshlife lacks in, i make up for online. Offline, im an effeminate, quiet, brooding, introverted guy. Online, im loud, rowdy, crude, and a downright douchebag.
    I dont know what it is, but i feel like i can express myself better online. Yeah, ive got alot of e-friends, some ive known and talk to for 3 or 4 years. I feel alot closer to some of these people than anyone in my fleshlife. I think theres a certain degree of freedom you have when you're online. You dont really have to worry about appearance or presentation, just finger movements. ive never really encountered and akward situation online, nor anything embarrassing. ive never gotten pissed off at anyone online either. there are never fights, never social tension, nor exclusions. internet ftw.
    friggin utopia, man

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    ive never gotten pissed off at anyone online either. there are never fights, never social tension, nor exclusions. internet ftw.
    You must have never played online games such as CS and met the JERKANATOR

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    stupid as it sounds, without the internet, i would never have pursued my love of art and be working in the field today.

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    Quote Originally Posted by LaPalida
    You must have never played online games such as CS and met the JERKANATOR
    oh, games dont count. I get so livid at people when i game, it makes the hulk look like lambchop

    Quote Originally Posted by Magic Man
    stupid as it sounds, without the internet, i would never have pursued my love of art and be working in the field today.
    quoted for truth/agreement

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    Quote Originally Posted by waronmars
    That totally reminded me of this thing i found while trawling for face refs...

    Online friends vs Real Life Friends.

    on the topic: cybar friends dont borrow your stuff and forget to give it back
    i wanna know what your search parameters were if you ended up with this.. on second thoughts, i dont need to know.

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    I don't think I'm too different one to the other. I'm maybe a bit more antagonistic online, but in otherways I'm much more reserved. I think I'm generally more open with people I actually know in person though.

    or did you mean "vs." like who would win in a fight? Because my real friends can't fight for shit...

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    Quote Originally Posted by Slash
    when you fly solo i think the correct term is "cyber-masturbation".
    ...oh

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    All my real-life riends have backstabbed me or turned really mad at me for no real reason.
    I used to hang whit them just for the sake of having someone to talk to.
    All exept one, but I lost contact whit him.

    The only problems whit online friends are that they are not online when I need them the most and that they live in another country.

    I have yet to meet someone (other than that guy I lost contact whit and my family) in real life that can respect my musical taste, my dreams and my art. Online people are just generally nicer it seems.

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    I just think that people need more confidence and social skills overall. Because I think you would feel alot better in real social interactions. Because the internet dosen´t stop you to open up, especially if you are anonymous (spell?), but real life does in a way because the most people think about what others will think about them when they will say that, do that etc. They aren´t themselves often.

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    never had n e in reallife and the ones i have online (if any?) all want to touch my sexy body or eat coleslaw of my gonads,guess which one i choose

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    Back in highschool, i just wanted to get through the day so i could get online, turn into K-17 and babble nonsense in the forums. It was more of a real name to me than my given name. Things were far less judgemental. So this thing has had quite an influence in my life.
    Out here, it doesn't matter if you're a fat pimpled cross-eyed short gremlin, or if you're brad pitt. We're all text here. Anyone can totally reinvent himself. That was what i liked about this world. I've matured since my early net days, and my life has gotten better in some points, worse in others, but this place is still unlike anything in those streets out there. That's why i keep coming here.

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    Quote Originally Posted by willow-whisp
    There needs to be a universal font we can all use that identifies any statement as sarcastic!!!

    quoted for emphasis

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    ... whats a friend?




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    Quote Originally Posted by cartoonfox
    ... whats a friend?




    peace

    You use them for money.

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    Also, you don't have the social bias based on looks online. If you are attractive you are treated the same as the ugly person next to you.


    What scares me is when i meet people online who insist on proving they are hot in real life.

    1)Because they could be lying
    or
    2)They are being honest but use their looks like a social crutch.

    Both are bad.

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