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    That heartbreak when your girlfriend moves to half-way across the world.

    ...and you KNOW IT'S OVER.



    Anybody had something similar happen? Do I still have a shot?

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    Accept its over, remember the good times, be super super nice and dont message her more then she messages you.
    Be cool and in 6 months youll be friends and generally feeling a lot better.

    Thats what I heard anyway.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Velocity Kendall View Post
    Accept its over, remember the good times, be super super nice and dont message her more then she messages you.
    Be cool and in 6 months youll be friends and generally feeling a lot better.

    Thats what I heard anyway.
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    Start working out. Quickly find another girl, or many girls.

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    Quote Originally Posted by ArviK View Post
    Start working out. Quickly find another girl, or many girls.
    working out is a distraction?

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    Not enough information.

    How serious was the relationship?

    Is it "over" 'cause she left? Or, is it over 'cause of additional factors?

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    Take care of yourself first and foremost, remember her for who she was and not what she's become (if things did turn sour), spend time with friends, keep your head busy with work or hobbies or something. I've been there.

    At least your relationship isn't halfway across the world right from the start, like all of mine have been. ._.

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    Like Stephen Stills says if you can't be with the one you love; love the one your with

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    Quote Originally Posted by dpaint View Post
    Like Stephen Stills says if you can't be with the one you love; love the one your with
    doo doo / doo doo / duh / duh / dunnah

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    Quote Originally Posted by Kamber Parrk View Post
    Not enough information.

    How serious was the relationship?

    Is it "over" 'cause she left? Or, is it over 'cause of additional factors?
    VERY serious, like almost-got-married serious. I was trying to be vague but here goes, I don't really have much to lose. We both loved each other blah blah blah and then after thinking for some time we decided to mutually separate because of different beliefs (after a year of being together). After a day or two I hated it and wanted to get back together but she said "something changed" inside her when we separated because she "never thought I would want to break up" with her even though she understood why (lots of stuff) and she really doesn't hate me for it.
    Now we are both "friends" and I feel like I should have never said anything and deal with my own crap myself and I feel like the whole thing is my fault. She is now across the globe where I may possibly not only never see her again but lose her forever. I think she really loved me and I broke her heart a bit too much. I ask if there is a chance we will get back together and I always get a gentle "I don't know." she also says things like she needs to "heal" or "don't worry about it. Everything will be OK." and this one is the one that hurts the most: "We will definitely get married one day.".
    It hurts because I think what may happen is that she will not think about it and she will meet some nice guy and they will probably get together. She even said it herself.

    So yeah...

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    Take care of yourself first and foremost, remember her for who she was and not what she's become (if things did turn sour), spend time with friends, keep your head busy with work or hobbies or something. I've been there.

    At least your relationship isn't halfway across the world right from the start, like all of mine have been. ._.
    Funny you should say that! I met her 3 months before I left to go to school in the USA and after I left I spent 3 months away from her. I then visited for Christmas for a month. We then Spent another 5 months away from each other and now I am here for 3 months for the summer. Sadly she left 3 days ago and I am not leaving Jamaica for another 3 weeks.

    So basically we spent a little more time away from each other than we did together.

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    Like Stephen Stills says if you can't be with the one you love; love the one your with
    So I love myself? Good plan. That's what you meant right?

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    Forget it, youre never going to get back togheter, and the sooner you realize that, the sooner you can move on with your life. Its obvious from what you wrote she was looking for a way out and when it ended, "something changed" was that she got out, but didnt have the balls to dump you herself, so when you "mutually" broke up, she was off the hook. The "we will get married" is just a little fish hook placed in your heart so that she can tug at it when she feels she needs to be validated, like between boyfriends or when shes feeling fat. My advice: drop all contact with her. Facebook, erase phone numbers, remove pictures etc. This is the yank the band aid solution. If you wanna slow burn for a few years though, its up to you. Take it from someone whos been there.

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    Hey buddy, you're kind of in my shoes from about a month and a half ago. I lived with my guy for a whole year when he moved up here but he decided he wanted to move back to the states in June. So I've just got to suck it up. You can't control other people or how they feel.

    But man, take my advice: it's over. You have to move on. It really sounds like she's trying to let you down easy, but by saying things like, "We'll definitely get married some day," she's just trailing you along by a thread even if that's not her intention. It can be really hard sometimes to be blunt with people you still care about but who you're breaking up with. I'm sure she still cares about your feelings and that's why she's saying these things even if she doesn't want to be with you, and she thinks she's sparing you from pain when really she's only prolonging it.

    I highly recommend you just cut off contact for a while, for your own sake. You won't be able to talk to her for a while like two normal friends until you can think about her without a bunch of emotion welling up. It takes a long time, but in my personal experience, this is the only option unless you want things to get really painful and messed up.

    But it sounds like soon you'll be moving, and starting a whole exciting new life in a new country. You'll have a lot of distractions and things to look forward to. Throw yourself into your art (it's what I did, and it did help), and then use your mad skills to find more babes.

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