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    So i ended a 4 month relationship and ive never been happier.
    Im so sick of the dating scene. I hate the whole game that it is.
    Im swearing off dating for now, and im going to focus on my art.

    Can i get an "amen" from my fellow single peoples?

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    Amen, brother!

    Man, I've never been into the whole "dating" thing (though some of my friends are date-o-holics...) My attitude has always been, don't force it, let it happen naturally, if it don't happen don't sweat it. That whole business of desperately running around trying to hook somebody just for the sake of being a couple seriously does not appeal.

    Art is better than sex anyway. Just as fun and it lasts longer.

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    i have been single for a long time... (read: my whole life )... not complaining as i have tons of stuff i ought to be doing but it is getting pretty weary!

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    Serial monogamy, baby. Its the only way to live. Being alone is not that bad of a deal and it is much better than feeling alone in a relationship.

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    Quote Originally Posted by lolbbq View Post
    Im so sick of the dating scene. I hate the whole game that it is.
    Im swearing off dating for now, and im going to focus on my art.
    Well, if you're doing it right, dating isn't a game. In fact if you're doing it right, it's pretty much akin to not having to try at all. That's not meant as any offense to you.

    As well, good relationships nourish and inspire your art, rather than hold you back.

    That being said, I'm not at all encouraging people to go find a date! Because the biggest problem these days, and why people think dating is a "game" of sorts, is because nowadays people date eachother just for the sake of dating, or because they happened upon eachother and want to take a chance rather than the whole "die alone" thing, or they get caught up in various visions of what "could be" and things of that nature. But that's...a lot of times...kinda doomed to failure.

    Here's the problem with dating that most people don't like hearing. And maybe it's not true for everyone, maybe it's just me. But to do dating right from my point of view, you've got to be perfectly ready and willing to acknowledge you might have to spend 10 or 20 very lonely years searching for the right person. If you wind up having to think often about how to "fix" your relationship or what you can to do try and keep things together, and make them work...if it's the right kind of relationship, there is no "making" it work. It works because that's just how it is. You can't imagine it not working. You don't date someone unless they're the best friend you've ever had, or likely ever will have.

    Anyway, so...yeah - kudos to you for being single again! Better to find out it wasn't working now than to waste 7 years of your life trying to force the impossible or something of the sort.

    And for those of you single people who don't necessarily want to be single - don't rush it! It's a difficult thing, but without patience, clear convictions, and an open mind with which to make wise decisions and judgement calls - rushing into a relationship will only yield embarrassing stories or hurtful memories.

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    I've been trying to curb (read: eliminate) sexual desire, but it's tricky and sneaks up on you! Then again, of course we'd all be happier without but at my age I feel it's appropriate.

    If you can be happy and single then more power to you!

    Otherwise, I'll be over here...



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    Quote Originally Posted by Jacob Kobryn View Post
    I've been trying to curb (read: eliminate) sexual desire, but it's tricky and sneaks up on you! Then again, of course we'd all be happier without but at my age I feel it's appropriate.

    If you can be happy and single then more power to you!

    Otherwise, I'll be over here...
    Those desires never go away so you might as well get use to it. And it like there is something wrong with it, it's part of being human

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    Someone once told me as we age we become more discriminating as we become less desirable. When you're 15 you like someone cause they like you. When you're
    35 you want them to have a job, a car a place to live, money in the bank, things in common.

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    Yeah ladies smell.




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    Quote Originally Posted by Jason Rainville View Post
    Yeah ladies smell.
    really good

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    Quote Originally Posted by Jacob Kobryn View Post
    I've been trying to curb (read: eliminate) sexual desire, but it's tricky and sneaks up on you!
    Tip: that is absolutely going to fail, 100% guaranteed it won't work, your current strategy is like a chocolate teapot or an ashtray on a motorbike, inventive but futile.

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    All da single ladies put ya hands up

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    Bah Jake, why fight it! Be happy dude

    I smell like an ashtray and unwashed jeans so no lady atm. Fcuk it, i'll just draw me one! heh

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    Yeah, the perfect thread for me! I never had a real relationship, no girlfriend, nada.
    I hate the modern ways of getting into a relationship. Most of my friends' relationships established in a time span of a weekend or so. They met each other at a festival or a party, fooling around and *kabuff* being in a relationship. Loving, trusting, needing each other from that point on.
    I always think that a relationship has something to do with love (obviously...) and falling in love just can not happen that fast imho. Though I actually can't say if this is true, since I've been a single for a long time.

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    SenEnd beat me to it.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Flake View Post
    Tip: that is absolutely going to fail, 100% guaranteed it won't work, your current strategy is like a chocolate teapot or an ashtray on a motorbike, inventive but futile.
    The Chocolate Teapot sounds like a British strip joint in a blaxsploitation movie.

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    Folks... it's really not that complicated.

    You're making relationships / finding a girlfriend , etc... way more of big deal than it actually is. Stop psyching yourselves out.

    You're being your own biggest obstacle.

    This thread deserves the Sisko face palm.

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    no. This thread deserves more Forever alone guy,

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    Quote Originally Posted by SlowDaddie View Post
    You're being your own biggest obstacle.
    Biggest obstacle to what? Don't assume everyone is trying to find a mate or feels incomplete without one...

    It's okay to be single. It's okay to be okay with being single. It's okay to even enjoy being single. Though I realize a lot of people simply can't understand this...

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    I didn't realise that so many other people realised that they didn't need a partner to define who they were. A modern miracle that such an understanding abounds.

    Although you can't deny there are major perks to having a significant other. Someone to hold your paint pots, for starters.

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    Forget a mate. All I want is a Jeeves. Someone to discreetly do all my chores and make my meals and bring me more tea when the pot runs empty. And then discreetly vanish when not needed.

    Maybe a robot... A robot would be cool.

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    It's a little bit funny that so many people who are single seem to be so pround of the fact that they're happy, stable and satisfyed. But I suppose on the other hand there are many people in relationships who are dependant, needy and unstable as individuals.

    I personally don't think that a relationship can truly work if the two people aren't happy as individuals.

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    Quote Originally Posted by QueenGwenevere View Post
    Biggest obstacle to what?
    To working you way up to spinsterhood!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Smashed_Pumpkin View Post
    It's a little bit funny that so many people who are single seem to be so pround of the fact that they're happy, stable and satisfyed. But I suppose on the other hand there are many people in relationships who are dependant, needy and unstable as individuals.

    I personally don't think that a relationship can truly work if the two people aren't happy as individuals.
    I agree with this, and it's why I'm not realationship material yet. I'm not that stable.

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    Quote Originally Posted by QueenGwenevere View Post

    Don't assume everyone is trying to find a mate...

    It's okay to be single.

    Forget a mate. All I want is a Jeeves.

    I've never been into the whole "dating" thing

    Art is better than sex anyway.


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    Quote Originally Posted by Flake View Post
    Tip: that is absolutely going to fail, 100% guaranteed it won't work, your current strategy is like a chocolate teapot or an ashtray on a motorbike, inventive but futile.
    It can be done, I'm 100% certain. Whether or not I can actually do it is different, but I know that has been done in the past. Sexual desire is one of the stronger desires we have along with attachtment to our bodies, desire for food, desire for sleep, etc. We'd all be better off without any of them.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Jacob Kobryn View Post
    It can be done, I'm 100% certain. Whether or not I can actually do it is different, but I know that has been done in the past. Sexual desire is one of the stronger desires we have along with attachtment to our bodies, desire for food, desire for sleep, etc. We'd all be better off without any of them.
    Wouldn't we be dead?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Jacob Kobryn View Post
    It can be done, I'm 100% certain. Whether or not I can actually do it is different, but I know that has been done in the past. Sexual desire is one of the stronger desires we have along with attachtment to our bodies, desire for food, desire for sleep, etc. We'd all be better off without any of them.
    Stop bein' a hippy.

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