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    Relationships suck

    Is anyone else on here having bad luck with love? I personally have been so depressed lately over a girl that I'm in love with (she has a new bf now but she still loves me, it's complicated) that I haven't really been drawing as much; I've just been lying in bed and wallowing in despair.

    I bring it up on this forum because of two reasons. For one, there are a lot of cool people on here of both genders, and I'm sure that I could get advice on here. And secondly, it is affecting my artistic progress, so I'm sure I can get some empathy over here?

    Anyways, let this just be a thread to rant about relationship problems, and to help each other out. I know there's a cheer me up thread, but that seems like just a bunch of pics of cats and stuff.

    If anyone on here is willing to talk to me personally about my problem, I would greatly appreciate it (like on AIM or email or whatever). It sucks not having someone to talk to about this stuff...

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    I'm gonna put on some Linkin Park and we are going to hug this shit out bro...

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    Damn youtube videos with their embedding disabled by request...

    crap now I actually have to say something. Uhhhhhh Love bites, love bleeds... It's bringin' me to my knees.

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    this thread is pretty enjoyable on the whole attraction thing.

    love..... if you let it rot into your body it'll corrupt your mind, and you'll develop a whole slew of dysfunctions that you can't fight, social anxiety, panic attacks, depression, love shyness, obsessive love.

    and sometimes that breakdown of communication can produce some interesting art. i tend to romanticize the act of unrequited love, its a virtuous pursuit in my single focused mind.

    the talk of love, and the relationships people play in each others lives, those are the things i take great interest in. rejection and acceptance, things which build and things that fade. this is my language.

    a lot of internet tough guys will say its all just chemicals in your brain and you should fuck a million girls a night and that its your prime directive to spread your seed and blah blah hail the penis. such a school of thought is frightening to me in how limited it is.

    love is... well uhm... i guess the absence of it can be equally as profound as the acquisition. don't let it interfere with your art. if you can't lift the pencil and let the world know you're angry, confused, and depressed, then why should it care when you are proud, joyous and confident?

    i guess you should be glad you don't call yourself grief and wear your rejection as your identity.

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    Hey man, I empathize.
    Sometimes love is good, sometimes bad.
    Right now my boyfriend, who is also my best friend, is 1000 miles away in a different town and I won't we able to see him again until this fall. It really hurts being away from him for so long and I'm finding it difficult to work.
    Fortunately, when I do work on my paintings it serves as a bit of a distraction from the sadness.


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    Im warning you now dude, an internet forum is no place to find sympathy. Especially with something like this. Comments up until now have been decent, but expect some pretty harsh criticism.

    "I must not fear. Fear is the mind-killer. Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration. I will face my fear. I will permit it to pass over me and through me. And when it has gone past I will turn the inner eye to see its path. Where the fear has gone there will be nothing. Only I will remain."
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    Lol, yeah I do expect harsh and stupid comments alike on a big forum, but I do appreciate all the ones so far. It's good to just be able to talk about it even on a forum; it's just another outlet.

    I have been drawing a little bit lately still (about an hour or two a day, slacking), and I noticed that for some reason my drawings looked better. I even drew stuff for the girl I'm referring to and I thought they turned out quite decent.

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    This too, shall pass.

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    Earlier this year, I briefly entered into a relationship with a girl. She was amazing. I got along with her better than I have with any other girl, and she in turn gave every indication that she was very interested in me and in being in a relationship with me.
    Then, without warning, she fell off the face of the earth for two weeks. I tried to get into contact with her in several different ways, with no response. I was going crazy with worry and the sheer frustration of not knowing what the hell was going on. Finally, I bumped into her at school...and two seconds later, her new boyfriend came up and kissed her.
    That really sucked. For a while, like you, I had no motivation to do anything other than sit around and think about how much it sucked. But, it does pass.
    And it does indeed help to talk about it, even on a forum.

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    If you love her enough to at least be happy for her happiness...then you have the right to be upset.
    If not, then it's time to for some introspection, because those emotions can turn into something ugly that ultimately ruins the chance of friendship.

    Maybe it's just not the right time right now, and who knows what the future will bring. Sometimes things just simply aren't meant to be, and as hard as it can be not to take it personally, or not be upset about...it's simply a fact of the universe. No one can promise you that you'll meet someone you love more, or in the exact same way...but there will be others, and that love may be as unique as the new people you meet. I have friends that I love very much, who I at one time loved romantically, but even though that didn't work out...they are some of the most amazing friends that anyone could ask for.

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    Quote Originally Posted by jeremyg0rd0n View Post
    Is anyone else on here having bad luck with love?
    I'm not having any luck with love. But hey, you can't be sad if you don't know what you're missing. Only relationships ive had were very hollow and short-lived (based on looks); I've discovered how difficult it is to find somebody i can truely and honestly relate to

    Im warning you now dude, an internet forum is no place to find sympathy. Especially with something like this. Comments up until now have been decent, but expect some pretty harsh criticism.
    I'd agree to this if it were any other forum, but this community is most certainly the most supportive online community i have ever encountered, and our moderators do a great job of keeping nasty and hateful individuals out. We may not be a big happy family, but i think these forums are the closest thing to it that you'll find on the internet.

    EDIT: I guess i didnt really say anything too helpful. Like i said I haven't been in love so I don't know the pain you're experiencing, but I do know that like everything, it'll pass. Every time one door shuts, 10 more open up. Just remember that, and keep your eyes open rather than moping and isolating yourself from the world.

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    Find the line between grief and simple attachment. Grieve, cry it out, feel it completely. Then, let it go. Know when to move on; you'll be ready at some point.

    Something I found helps, when you're ready, is to think about something else every time you start thinking about the relationship. Helps to forget.

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    Honestly i cant really think of anything to put here to make you feel better, But i feel for you me and my girl have had some problems lately and I just want it all to be ok and both of us happy before i leave for art school because its pretty hard to sit down and practice with that in the back of your mind. That and is somewhat physically draining. dont worry about bringing it to CA personally iv wanted to sometimes and Idk how i would have made it this far without the help of some people on CA like the guys in my SSG. If you need someone to talk to i could potentially help well iv had problems of my own but worked most relationship problems out just PM me

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