Are you happy?

[Choob]

Read the title. :yayca:

Many of you are very cheery people, with sunny personalities :sungod:.

But with some it seems forced somehow.

Simple question, but think before you say yes.

Are you happy? Are you content? If you were to die right now, what would you regret?

And btw this is nothing to do with philosophy, or spamming or whatever, I'm just a deep thinker, and I want to know other people's feelings.


;)

[Churamhija Khan]

no...

[Choob]

Care to expand on that?

[Craig D]

Shouldn't you answer the Q yourself before asking everyone else to tell all?

[Bill]

I won't be happy 'till I get a job. In the mean time I look around at Haiti, Iran, Darfur etc. etc. etc. and shake my head because these people will never know how hard it is to be a healthy, educated, straight, middle-American white guy. At times the plight is overwhelming.

[s.ketch]

I want to know other people's feelings.

That won't make you very happy.

You can either live a life of meaning or a life of happiness, you can't have both.

[central]

yes, but only when I remember that it's just a state of mind.

[Demo]

That won't make you very happy.

You can either live a life of meaning or a life of happiness, you can't have both.

Perhaps you should explain this. :up:

[Dusty]

I'm incredibly happy.

I live on the principle that if something is making you miserable, then you need to remove the elements that are causing that. It doesn't happen over night, of course. It took me about 5 years to go from miserable to happy....but I knew the exact elements that were making me unhappy, and I changed them.

It really is that easy.
The concept of it is easy, I mean. The steps to create happiness may be difficult...but if you work at it, you can be happy, too.

-D

[Hyskoa]

Sometimes. Sometimes I'm not. If you were happy all the time, it'd get boring.

[OmenSpirits]

I'm driven in my art, I'm happy when with my friends.

Right now, I'm driven.

[Samuel Gray]

The more we understand about happiness the more power we have to achieve it and the more it becomes a choice.

And yes, I choose to be happy.

[squidmonk3j]

Many of you are very cheery people, with sunny personalities.

But with some it seems forced somehow.

Simple question, but think before you say yes.

Are you happy? Are you content? If you were to die right now, what would you regret?

Say Yes to Life - and to L'Oreally Age Perfect Pro-Calcium Night Gesso...Because You're Worth It.



I'm sorry, but AdvertisementSpeak just annoys me:)

[Liz Edwards]

Yep, I'm happy! I was miserable through school and college but now I've started uni and it feels like I'm getting somewhere, I've really nothing to be unhappy about anymore :)

[IKV Nexis]

http://i123.photobucket.com/albums/o293/ikvnexis/633492227089746236-happiness.jpg

[ManicShadow]

No, I'm not happy. The last time I was happy was about 10 years ago, before I began to suffer from depression. My unhappiness reached its peak in late 2006, when a whole lot of shit went down, as a result I spent the whole of 2007 in a zombie-like state. After that mess, I've gotten a little bit better but I'm still extremely bitter.

[central]

I know this is a bit off topic but reading the book, the secret really made sense to me. Some of it was just common sense, well put. Definitely understand the power of one's thoughts to influence one's feelings now as a result of it. Recommend it highly.

[Psychotime]

http://www.pastdeadline.com/images/stimpy_1.jpg

Yep.

[alesoun]

Define happy. Define art. NOOOOO I'm kidding on define art!

Depends if the wind's NNW, and it's only momentary. This too will pass (and come back and bite you on the ass)

[SMILEFACE]

I am all things with out sadness i would not know joy ect... I am me good or bad i feel

[Slash]

Yes. I am.

[Mr.Delicious]

Wicked happy, everything is good <3

[loveandasandwich]

I just moved into a huge new place in a beautiful town with a boy I love and we just got a new puppy that's the most wonderful little creature in the world, and art pals come to stay with us for a couple days to a couple weeks, and I get to wake up when I want and go to bed when I want and work from home doing something I love, and I can afford my bills most of the time, so I'd say yes.

[VulgarDragon]

Yes and no and yes and yes and no and no and yes. It depends...some things are good, and some things are not so good.

[Straight Edge Ryan]

I'd say so.

There is a saying, "if you want to make others happy, practice compassion. If you want to make yourself happy, practice compassion."

[gnarl]

I'm happy.:)

Because I say... Life, is not a big deal, it's just not. We all end, all 6 something billion of us. Fuck it and enjoy the ride.:)

[CaNiBaLe]

I am happy, most of the time

[Shinn]

Things that make people happy:

-having a gf or bf
-having money, as a matter of fact having a job, preferably what you want to do in life
-Having a good social circle
-Having a good relation with your family

if you have all that you should be happy, as soon as you lack 1 of those , Im pretty sure you will feel sad more often.

...as for me I have all of that so yeah Im happy!

[Crane]

Thats the 3rd time today i've needed to consult a dictionary...

[JJacks]

I am very happy and I think that I've always been happy with most aspects of my life. Sometimes I get sad but as long as I can get through those times, I am happy. :)

[Jason Rainville]

No.

Elaboration (since you need some?):
-19 yr old sister engaged to 34 yr old with a history of douchebaggery. going out for only 2 months. Family enraged.
-Father apparently cheating on mother. Mother not sure if she will leave the house or not. Family again enraged.
-Out of school for over a year, unable to get a job. Only a trickle of freelance work. Not helpful to self-worth.
-Due to a change of heart, moved out of a friend's house after only a week of living there. Things will be uneasy between us.
-Social anxiety disorder means the detestation of social contact (and therefore a lack of it), coupled with the intense desire for it. Results in confusion.

But since I have a roof over my head (for the moment) I have food to eat and I can type this message, things can't be all that bad. I wouldn't say I'm depressed, just unsure.

[jigje]

I have found for sure that my happiness doesn't depend on external criteria.

If having a gf or bf was a cause of happiness then everyone in a relationship would be happy. If having a job was a cause of happiness then every one with a job would be happy and so on.
There are people with money that are happy and people without money that are happy.

My happiness depends on my mind. The more I practice being content and not too self absorbed, the happier I feel. When its all about me, it comes undone.
Learning to disregard unpleasant circumstances and accept small problems is a skill that can be learnt in the same way as drawing can. eg: If you learn to really accept not so much money now and learn how to be happy without so much you can survive happily anywhere when you really perfect that skill. Ive known people with such skills that have died from cancer with their happiness unaffected. I know people without such skills who have a meltdown when their coffee isnt how they like it.

If something can be remedied, then why be unhappy about it.
If something cannot be remedied, then why be unhappy about it.

Not my words. Very useful when some thought is given to them. Worry is useless and a cause of much suffering.

[chriskot]

Things that make people happy:

-having a gf or bf
-having money, as a matter of fact having a job, preferably what you want to do in life
-Having a good social circle
-Having a good relation with your family

if you have all that you should be happy, as soon as you lack 1 of those , Im pretty sure you will feel sad more often.

I'm only scoring 2/4 here and I don't even get together with those in my social circle nearly as much as I would like. I'm also liberal, nonreligious, and I don't get a whole lot of sleep or exercise, which is apparently supposed to make my happiness even more of a statistical rarity. Even so, I'm usually unreasonably happy, to the point that other people will frequently call me out on it. I must be doing something wrong.

[Jazz]

At this moment I feel content. Having fun with family and good friends over the weekend made me feel good. Eating foods I enjoy, playing games, doing things I want to do, but on a time that isn't scheduled... All this has made me happy in the past couple of days.

Last week I was very depressed. I normally get doubtful, even when I'm feeling happy. I've taken on that outlook over the years because happiness for me would be short-lived. Now I'm trying to get out of that, and not feel bad when I'm actually feeling happy.

[Eugie]

eating these fish sticks are making me happy or maybe im just a gay fish.

[Peter Coene]

That won't make you very happy.

You can either live a life of meaning or a life of happiness, you can't have both.

I disagree. I feel no explanation for my disagreement is neccesary.

As for my own life, overall I'm happy. Of course I have my moments of unbridled rage (which is when I vent and make myself look like an idiot) but overall I am happy. No, I haven't always been happy, there have been times that seemed like I was living in purgatory and upon occasion it was hell; however, thinking about those times usually makes me happier as that is, for the most part, behind me.

Now that I don't have too many problems of my own the things that make me unhappy are when other people are not happy through their own approach to life. I realise that I myself tend to complain, but usually once I've have my moment to vent I'm usually fine and it doesn't bother me quite so much, and I feel silly for having acted like a jackass. However, what truly gets to me is when I see people who hold grudges, who get angry and stay angry, almost as if they have attatched their anger as a part of someone else's identity. I feel sorry for them because it ends up effecting how they interact with others and they just get bitter and start shutting off the rest of the world entirely. I guess if anything, seeing that happen to people is one of the few things that makes me feel truly unhappy. Everything else comes and goes.

[the_jos]

Are you happy? Are you content? If you were to die right now, what would you regret?

Happy? No. Maybe yes. Yes, No. Dunno.....
Happiness was long gone in my life. Now I have some back but I know it's a game. A game I'm very willing to play at this moment. Won't last forever, happiness will be gone someday. This doesn't make me sad though. Things come and go, such is life.

Content? Again it's difficult to answer. I have everything and more than I need. Except for some parts of my life. But I learned to accept that sometimes you don't get the things you desire.
Again, things change. What I have today might be gone tomorrow. What I don't have today might be here tomorrow. Such is life.

Do I regret things?
I should have told the people I love and care about that far more often.
But I don't regret not doing that. Because I also know those people know I love them and care about them. Not because I tell them but because of the things I do.
Other than that it's just a bunch of 'what-if' questions/answers.
I make choices like everyone does. I learned to make the choice instead of pushing them forward and staying in uncertainty. Some choices ended up being good, some ended up being bad. But I made them.
Such is life.

[Gokce]

Very happy & peaceful. Hope it lasts for this lifetime.

[Choob]

Shouldn't you answer the Q yourself before asking everyone else to tell all?

Fair enough. I'm usually a happy guy. But since my dog died last week aged only 4, I'm not my usual self. Colour has somehow drained from the world slightly, and I'm waiting for the sun to come up again. ;)

I'm sorry, but AdvertisementSpeak just annoys me:)

I wasn't advertising anything, and I didn't steal these phrases of adverts. When I type, it's from the heart, on the spot typing. You don't really feel something unless you came up with it.

Some interesting answers there guys. I just want to make it clear that I'm not being nosy, I'm trying to get you to think about your own state of mind. Why do I do this? No-idea. It just feels like something I have to do.

I'm glad to hear that so many of you are happy. Loveandasandwich you sound like you're having a great time. :D

What did you call your puppy?

[darkwolf29a]

I go with the Dennis Leary definition of happiness:

"Happiness comes in small doses folks. It's a cigarette, or a chocolate cookie, or a five second orgasm. That's it, ok! You cum, you eat the cookie, you smoke the butt, you go to sleep, you get up in the morning and go to fucking work, ok!? That is it! End of fucking list!" http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oAVoQfoU0dQ

But, at this point, I must state that I am, substantially, more happy than I used to be.

5 years ago, not so much.
- A job I disliked.
- A location I disliked.
- A house that was driving me into the poor house.
- A 30 mile commute that took 1.5 hours to make.
- No significant other.

5 years later:
- A job I still hate.
+ In school for graphic design.
+ A fiancee. (We will be married next year)
+ A location I like.
+ No house payment. Yeah, I rent a duplex.
+ 2.5 miles from work. Now, THAT is a commute.

So, am I happy? yeah, most of the time. I have found that you can choose your happiness. My unhappiness sprang from the fact that I felt stuck in my job, my house, my community. Now, while I still have the same job, which still blows, I have found that I can have an outlet, art. So, I funnel that negative energy into a picture, a painting, etc. I get it away from me, and then it's gone, period.

But, I have also found that I can use negativity in my life as fuel to get myself out of the situation I am in. I don't like my job...how do I fix that? I know that the whole industry, Network Administrators, are the same way...and I don't like it anymore. My answer? Go back to school, get a degree in graphics design, spend time on my portfolio, etc. Once I've graduated...I'll go search for a job in the art industry, where I can be happier. At least, I'll be able to use my artistic talents to make something, instead of fixing everyone's mistakes, like I do now.

[Gavage]

No.

Since elaborating is encouraged - I have a very troubled relationship, I'm a recluse much as a result of an eating disorder which comes and goes, the friends who were initially supportive and helpful seemingly gave up and disappeared within the first month, and I spend a great deal of time keeping all this from my parents who I have become more or less an unpaid full-time carer to. There is a sort of bumpy cycle of issues that feed and conflict with each other. The unhappiness is not so much sadness as bitterness - much of it just can't be overcome right now. It annoys me to an extent because I dislike being perceived as some morose dark Tim Burton figure and yet I feel like some walking symbol of it sometimes. On a good day I'll use this as a fuel and put my feelings into my art so at the very least something is achieved as a result of negativity. I'm not crying myself to sleep or carving symbols into my arm with a razor blade or praying for the apocalypse but no, things are not ideal just at the moment. My happiness depends on someone who has barely spoken to me in the last six months suddenly coming back and helping me, overcoming an issue that has been here for nearly half a decade now, and my parents magically being cured. Generally I am hoping for the best and preparing for the worst.

I'm good at coping with it, despite how emo the above paragraph probably sounds. I can put a brave face on and ignore things just as well as anyone else can, and I don't generally moan on and on about that stuff unless someone actually asks. I'm not happy but I'm good at acting it.

:)

(See?)

[davi]

I'm only happy when i overload myself with tasks and activities to keep my idle brain dwelling on my faults and inadequacies.

so if i were to look deep, no...but i try not to look deep on purpose.

[Eugie]

Am I seeing things or do you have 10,004,884 posts davi?

[Ilaekae]

There's a glitch in the forum software that counts every little turd Davi's avatar drops as a post...

They're working on it.



Am I happy?

I'm not dead yet.

I have so many things to do I can't see finishing more than one percent of them.

My old lady has aged beautifully, still laughs at fart jokes, and still talks to me after 40 years.

Most of the people who wanted to kill me are dead.

I have so much neato shit jammed into my house that the Feds have declared me a gravity anomaly, and I don't even remember where most of it came from or why I have it.

All four of my doctors think it's funny to call me up randomly and ask if I'm still alive.

I can cook, sew, bake, and plumb/wire a hell of a lot better than most of you can.

Every Conservative, religious fundamentalist and racist in the entire county is afraid to open their mouths when I'm around.

Pall Malls still cost only $37 a carton at the local supermarket.

Little kids read about what I lived through in their history books in school...and are smart enough not to mention it to me.

There is absolutely NOTHING that I regret doing so far in my life.





Yes...I'm happy.

How about you?

[squidmonk3j]

-ahem!-

You have a need for other people to like and admire you, and yet you tend to be critical of yourself. While you have some personality weaknesses you are generally able to compensate for them. You have considerable unused capacity that you have not turned to your advantage.

Disciplined and self-controlled on the outside, you tend to be worrisome and insecure on the inside. At times you have serious doubts as to whether you have made the right decision or done the right thing. Smiling more will make you happier. You prefer a certain amount of change and variety and become dissatisfied when hemmed in by restrictions and limitations.

You also pride yourself as an independent thinker; and do not accept others' statements without satisfactory proof. But you have found it unwise to be too frank in revealing yourself to others. At times you are extroverted, affable, and sociable, while at other times you are introverted, wary, and reserved. Some of your aspirations tend to be rather unrealistic. Please be well.

[JessiBean]

So many cynical answers in this thread... :P

Yes, I am happy. There is WAY more to be happy about than not.
:heart:

[hunchback]

i dunno,, im only eighteen

what i do know is this..

Im a procrastinatin, paranoid, proud, canadian, diabetic, skinny, unfit, blonde, cynical, stupid, anxious, self pitying, jobless, finite, quite, scared, human being. Who has done many stupid things in the last handful of years. I was as close to happy as i could be last year. I still remember the elation of that relationship. Now im extremely hard on myself, ive lied to myself, ive put cages in my mind.

I want to be happy again, i want to enjoy my days and not wake up and say wtf... Ive been talking to people again and met some new people and that has made me happy,,,, for the time being. Im still wrestling with the idea that you need dreams to achieve them but i question everything from every perspective and then this turns into procrastination beccause i can tdecide. If you ever meet me in real life im quiter than a mouse, but on here i talk without a fear.

[Ilaekae]

Don't worry, Hunch'...

It's against the law in most western countries for 18-year-olds to be happy. Halfway through age 19, they give you a big bag of M&Ms with peanuts, at 20 you get an official Happy Card (same place you get your driver's license), and at 21, you're officially considered an idiot, and therefore, too stupid to realize it when you are unhappy. It all works out--just be patient.

[alesoun]

Today I'm happy. I've wrestled my jungle of a garden and won, finished 2 paintings, work is starting to look up again after a long dry period, and the sun is shining.

Actually, I'm an optimist, so there's usually a "happy" vein in my life. Sometimes I have to dig pretty hard to find it, though....

[AsaB]

Yes, I am. :teeth:

But I'm also confused since I have no idea what I'm going to do with this life that was given to me--pursuing art or not is currently the big decision. I'm not gonna lose sleep over this, however, something I've learnt during the past couple of years is stop worrying. I used to overthink every detail and its consequences, everything had to be practical and 'correct'. I'm still in the progress of losing this mindset and loosening up but I've come far by now. So I'm just gonna go with the flow, enjoy the ride and see where life takes me :^^: Can't wait to see what happens, it's going to be awesome!

[Eugie]

There's a glitch in the forum software that counts every little turd Davi's avatar drops as a post...

Oh duh, how is it that I have not figured that out yet.

[FranciscoShreds]

Yep. pretty happy.

[Kolpar]

Not happy, not depressed. Pretty mellow.
I feel like I've distanced myself from my own life, like is like a routine to me.
*Deep thoughts by a man who calls himself Kolpar cannot be taken seriously :P

[Chris Saksida]

Good question; pretty much yeah!

[AndreasM]

I'm not unhappy, but I'm home atm and that means I'm miles away from any social circles and people i care about (no gf either, boo hoo;( ). On the other hand, I'm being tken pretty good care of by my family atm, AND I know i'll be back in school for another year. It's just that 3 month wait without a social life that can be a little enduring.

Generally, if I'm unhappy, it's because I'm living my (blessed) life wrong.

[Ninjerk]

Happy and anxious

[Spirit]

At the moment, I can say that yes, I am happy. Of course this can change for different reasons, but mainly the things which go on in my mind. Influences from the outside can also affect how I feel, such as people or events which happen. I realise now that its my frame of mind, and what I choose to do and how I think about these things which affect me most of all. I haven't lived long enough to experience many of the things life throws at people, but I have experienced a lot of things which can and have affected me in a negative way. Elaboration?

Last year, I can safely say was the worst year, and most unhappy of my life as of yet, as so many things happened that year which changed the rest of my life. Such as my parents splitting up very unexpectedly and my dad moving out, the doctors confirming my sister does actually have anorexia (it was obvious she had it by just looking at her, but an official diagnosis was still a shock) and them waiting 13 years before actually confirming it for us. Also my first relationship, which I don't want to go into detail about as I'd rather forget about it. My mum dating a new guy (who was a complete jerk) and basically screwed her, me and my siblings around. As well as many other things. I did have occasions where I would sit around and feel sorry for myself, but I tried the best I could not to do that, although there is only so much you can cope with on your own. Elaboration over.

However, I always try to keep an optimistic view on everything I do, and try to have a positive outlook. There are many other people who have had a lot harder live than me. There are times where I feel "depressed" or unhappy, everyone has those, but then I move on from them. This year is turning out to be a lot more promising, and I am feeling a lot happier. I feel that I am learning and making progress with my art, family stuff is being resolved, I am deciding where I want to go with my life. One of the happiest moments for me, was seeing my sister eat a whole pizza by herself in March. It was only a small pizza, but that was the first time she had ever eaten a full meal, and it was the first step for her.

Oops, this post wasn't supposed to be long! What I'm trying to say (in as many words as possible, it seems) is that anyone can be happy, it's just down to their decisions, what they choose to do, and their frame of mind. Afterall, who wants to live an unhappy life? :blahblah:

[Flake]

Life's not perfect, far from it, but I'm not one of the millions of people living in a mud hut drinking dirty water so, yeah, I'll get by.

[Twiggy]

I feel happy becuase life feels like an adventurous journey, to my mind, I feel like most of my problems are internal, they're invisible, yet I'm hopeful. I just feel fucking lonely to a point wheres its insanity and I lost my identiy, but again that results from the inside. At the end of the day, life is like a big myseterious unfilled canvas to explore, to me thats how I feel, you're life can change drastically.

I just very dissapointed becuase great times I've had before arn't there anymore, it hurts me everytime I think about how my years are being wasted. I just try to keep a positve attitude, but it can pretty fucking hard, and I feel alone. I think it's ambition that keeps me alive, a desire to change, to brake grounds, to start wars, whateverI mean whats out there? I hope it's something fucking crazy.

You can think positive, use the underestimated power of you're imagenation :sungod:

[Wooly ESS]

As someone said earlier, happiness is a state of mind. So, many years ago, I made the decision to be happy. Ergo, I am happy. I eat well, exercise and get lots of sleep. Over time, I arrange to do more and more of the things I like, and fewer of the things I don't like.

This is not to say that I'm content. There are a great many things I am dissatisfied with, but there is joy to be had in striving against those dissatisfactions. My greatest frustration is that I have so many things I want to do, but not enough years left in which to do them. So, I have a choice. I can be miserable about that, or I can be happy. I choose to be happy.

We exist for only the blink of an eye. There are no "do overs". Don't waste it.

[ethan karnopp]

If I died right now I wouldn't regret a thing. For one I don't think people remain sentient after dying, and more importantly I realize the only way to learn sometimes is to make mistakes. So with that in mind lately I have been in a very testing scenario, a lot changes, a lot of adjusting. This wears on my optimism, but I don't consider myself completely cynical. So to answer the question: I guess it all depends on the day, but in general I'm stoked.

[ChristianWeeks]

im not happy right now but i think its just a passing thing

my life is ridiculously boring now, theres nothing to do in my town and all i do is the same shit over and over again, my boss is a fat bitch, and women are confusing / evil. pretty sums up my thoughts right now

[Ninjerk]

Life's not perfect, far from it, but I'm not one of the millions of people living in a mud hut drinking dirty water so, yeah, I'll get by.

Lol, maybe a year and half ago I decided I wouldn't sweat my job or my living situation too much. Anytime I got stressed about either one I'd ask myself, "Are you in Africa?" and the answer was, "No," every time so I quit getting stressed.

[Bhrazz]

No I'm not. Is the just way I am. There is some of those days I feel good but I'm not happy in general. Even If I had everything I ''wanted'' in life I won't be happy, and I'm not on a quest to be happy, I'm happy the way I am=D

[tandy1000]

I've been suffering from extreme anxiety and depression for 5 years now so I can say for sure I am not happy. :/

[Interceptor]

I recently just moved from Canada to Australia to be with a person I love. I've been staying with another CA member for about a month and work is rolling in. It's a toal change of lifestyle for me, and I don't think I've ever been happier in my life. I think if you're unhappy, it's time for you to make a change in your life.

[Psypomp]

There's a difference between feeling happy or sad for a moment and actually being a consistently happy person. I feel like a brat for saying it, because there are millions of people who have it worse than me, but I can't honestly say I'm a happy person.

[nickmarshallvfx]

I sometimes feel very alone. Not in the physical sense of beingnon my own because i dont mind that at all, but alone in my outlook sometimes. Im sure everyone thinks they see things more clearly than others but i occassionally have real moments of depression / clarity where the futility of life and the extreme flaws of the human race are revealed to me.

However for the most part i am a really happy person! I am workin in pretty much my dream job, i have a loving girlfriend, a nice new place we jist moved into, and good prospects for the future. I will feel the heartache of the loss of a family member soon though which i am struggling to prepare for. On the whole i try and treat everything with as much happiness and enthusiasm as possible because it normally leads to more of the same.

[setsuna801]

I like this post it makes me feel that I am not alone.

I believe if someone misse one of those things

love(relationship and or familly,friends)
Wealth(money)
Health(physicla and mental)

Then you are unbalance.

I am not happy but I do my best to be neutral and happy everyday because I think it is ridiculous to cry all the time like I used to do a month ago.

I am 20 years old 158lbs 5foot11 average thin looking guy. Do a lot of martial art and stuff. eat healty

I am not happy because I never had a serious relationship long relationship with a girl. So what I do for that is

I decide I am going to become the more good looking then I possibly can by going to the gym having a very good diet, still practicing martial arts. Getting very nice cloths. have fun time with a hooker since I haven't done yet, this will calm me down a bit and give me confidence this cant take me from 6months to a year of patience and hard work.

I am little less happy because I am not at the level I want in art but I am working hard on that and the fact I don't have the love I want affect my art a lot. I discipline myself a lot to draw a lot to become good and have a good job. Going to a new school this semester and learning new stuff will definitivly make my mind focus and be happy. I better not gain weight or lose muscle thought or else I will get in depression hehe.

I won't to become a better public speaker and learn how to tell good stories. This is not the most important thing thought

I am a bit less happy but not too much, since I was fired from the coolest job I ever had which was working at a video and game rental store for 1 month, now I am with no job, some days I can't even by a 3$ drinks at least I am very lucky to have my parent.


So in brief everything somehow always come back to have a good life be happy and you will have a girlfriend of your choice that you like and she like.


What I am proud and what makes me happy is that I have a family, I am healhty I know girls like some point of me and I date from time to time when I have a job. I have friends to have fun and which who I draw. I can pay school and I am a very hard working person with good qualities. Each time I work hard and each time I go out and have fun with friends I am happy. And I take care of my poor family and my family and friends the best I can.

I believe from 6 month to 1 year I can see a big improvement

I stopped looking for a girl until those problem are fix

[gnarl]

have fun time with a hooker since I haven't done yet, this will calm me down a bit and give me confidence this cant take me from 6months to a year of patience and hard work.


...:$

Uhhhm, hooker? Why don't you just go to a party and find a nice drunk girl?

"Dooooon't stop. Belieeeeeeev'n!"

Anyways. Having a girlfriend is not the greatest thing for an aspiring, hard working artist. They can be very much a distraction, and you wont even notice how much you're not getting done.

[setsuna801]

I have to say that dating girls for 2 weeks I felt like giving more time but I was choosing the ones that it would not matter if I don't give as much time since they were also busy. But I feel way more inspired when I have a girl. And I believe that since I am not liking 100% the way I am I lost the job. They thought I was to serious but when I am with friend I joke. I wont to be able to joke no matter who and be able to tell story good. I am funny in beign goofy and bizzard ^^. At least I am called funny hehe. Well hooker, drunk girl or if I am lucky to get a girlfriend before find, but there is nothing wrong doing it the way I do. Anyway I wont dwell on this since I want to remain neutral and be super happy at least when I get the physics part of things. I am happy to have read the others people stuff too.

Anyway I believe it will take time for me to get a girl cuz I can't choose everyone for sure I need somebody who will understand I do art and stuff.

[the_jos]

Uhhhm, hooker? Why don't you just go to a party and find a nice drunk girl?

A very close friend of mine went to a bar, got drunk and while telling a guy several times that she didn't want sex with him she went home with him and got pregnant.
She had to tell her husband she was pregnant while she didn't have sex with her husband for ages.....
And she has to explain to the kid that his dad is actually not his dad someday....

Sure, protection solves this somewhat. But for some reasons people tend to forget this in the heat of things.

Besides this I think that while the girl/woman should not get pissed so much she doesn't know what she's doing it's also the responsibility of the boy/man to avoid having sex with her. If you want to have sex with someone find someone who is conscious enough to know what (s)he's doing.

But then, I'm probably old and such by thinking that way....

[Brushcommander]

I have tons of reasons to be a crying, little emo fag but I'm not.
Life is awesome if you want it to be.

[setsuna801]

for sure someone counscious and everything got to be protected. I almost never drink and I never get drunk. its funny how with sex the topic kinda changed. And something which is bad is doing something to someone without is will.

[Choob]

squidmonk3j: Is that a personal diagnosis or are you just quoting from the horoscopes page? ^^

Ilaekae: Sounds like you've done what you want and are enjoying life. We should all learn off you. :D

On the topic of girlfriends guys, having one may be distracting, but having one is better than you constantly thinking of yourself as alone.

;)

And no, I've not got a girlfriend atm. If you were wondering. Call me a hypocrit if you want. ^^

[JJacks]

Just saying, in general, I don't think that because a lot of people have worse lives than your's that you're somehow not allowed to feel discontent about your own life. Why can't you want better for yourself?

[squidmonk3j]

Xeno - That entirely depends on who's reading, of course:)

[wassermelone]

Sometimes.

I'm very happy when I'm with my fiance and my puppy.

Otherwise I have quite a lot of stress in my life right now. There are things I can change, and will change, but the biggest amount of stress I have right now is from an unresolved, undiagnosed medical issue that is simply just... pain. I am in pain probably 60% of the time. I can for the most part ignore it, but sometimes it gets interesting. I've been going to doctors for about a year and a half now and have gone through plenty of tests, but they don't know what is going on. It might be something I have to deal with for the rest of my life (pain killers don't help) or it might be something that can be cured/managed whatnot, but I want to know. It just being this wierd mystery is causing heavy amounts of stress such that I've started to get anxiety attacks.

:davi:

[XanaChama]

I come up with very different answers everytime I see this thread, but they all start and end with the same thing... "I am". Nothing more to add beyond that because it's not necessary. If you don't understand, I can't explain it.

[Katfayheirti]

I'm happy whenever I remember to slow down, take a deep breath, and realize that I'm ALIVE.


Also, I'm really enjoying this time in my life right now. I'm living with a wonderful boy I'm in love with, in a crazy city surrounded by interesting friends working hard at school and breaking into the video game world at an internship surrounded by coworkers who are wonderfully fun to work with. :D

Although, my boyfriend DID just get mugged yesterday in my crazy city(he's OK, though), so right this moment I still have a little residual worry.

[Eugie]

I decide I am going to become the more good looking then I possibly can by going to the gym having a very good diet, still practicing martial arts. Getting very nice cloths. have fun time with a hooker since I haven't done yet, this will calm me down a bit and give me confidence this cant take me from 6months to a year of patience and hard work.


I don't wanna ruin your goals or anything but having good looks does not automatically get you a girlfriend, neither does having nice clothes (although being well groomed is a big plus aka good hygiene). You need to strike confidence, have ambitions, be thoughtful, and most of all offer something most men don't.

[setsuna801]

I don't wanna ruin your goals or anything but having good looks does not automatically get you a girlfriend, neither does having nice clothes (although being well groomed is a big plus aka good hygiene). You need to strike confidence, have ambitions, be thoughtful, and most of all offer something most men don't.

You are write and I do know looks is not the only thing, I have part of the personnality since I have friends and had a few short relationships. But I know the personnality is not perfect and it takes time but I will give my chance the best chance by putting me on the best that I can be.
If I accomplish having a very good appearance and or becoming bette in art one influence the ot her and I become happy and I believe that we have to go to pain to become good at some thing, it is good to be unhappy for a period to learn and to question your self and to work hard to become the person you want to be.

good appearce gives you an extra for sure. you just have a bigger choice but you can find someone for you even if you are fat or something different but it is harder.

If I could concentrate mostly on my art it would be great now

[Keytoast]

I don't know. I sure am confused, though.

I've been in periods of both happiness and depression throughout my life. After a while I began to notice I had numbed to both. It takes a lot to make me feel happy now. Or sad for that matter. I still have occasional periods of depression. Or periods where I feel very euphoric. But those are rare and most of time I don't feel anything.

Life is confusing. But I'm likely beating a dead horse by saying that.

Bleh.

[setsuna801]

one of the most important quality to become happy is patience

[Maidith]

I believe the key to happiness is to not take anything for granted. Often you don't realize that you're quite wealthy in one or more areas (love/family/friends, money, accomplishments, talents, health, etc.) but if you do realize what you have and never take it for granted, it is much easier not to whine about what you don't have.

For example, I haven't been in a relationship until I was 20 (still am), but I still was/am consistently happy and content with my life, because I have an awesome, supportive family, good health and financial support for art school.

And now I have a cool boyfriend in addition to that, what more could I wish for? :)

[alpha_tomasowa]

i've always thought of life as a search to find, then fulfill ur purpose.
to that extent, there's nothing that i would redo, and because i'm still on the path i believe is right, there's nothing i regret as well.

so, yes - i would die happy anytime in my life because every nanosecond is spent trying to achieve my purpose ... and it's the race that's fun, not the finish line.

[EagleVision]

FACTOID:

1- No one is happy, they all lie to you!
2- Happiness is nothing more than artificial and temporary feeling which simulates by neuro[logical] activities and neurotransmitter called "Serotonin"!
3- If you find someone happy, make sure he/she using psychedelics! (at least pot)
4- Sex is the ultimate happiness for all living things .. because creator need living things to clone and growth as fast as they can!
5- Money makes you happy, because give you power, but you find yourself "empty" after buy everything you want!
6- Genetic Mutation and artificial stimulation of happiness doesn't help at all, play BioShock for info on deep!

You can't be happy while there is only 6 ways to go!

Forget it I'm happy (3)!!

[Crass]

No.. Until recently I didn't even believe there was anything I could ever have or do that would make me happy, most of the things others strive for seem completely meaningless to me, and it used to bother me a lot, seeing others running mindlessly in the opposite direction, chasing all the things I want to get away from. Now, I am all about experiencing life my own way and I think there might be happiness to be had in that, but I'm not happy yet...

[Katfayheirti]

For example, I haven't been in a relationship until I was 20


You're not the the only one, Maidith. ;P Even though I'm in a relationship right now that I really enjoy, I certainly don't think people should ever feel that they need a boy to be complete.

[Bill]

For example, I haven't been in a relationship until I was 20 ?

29 for me. I worry more about where I'll be when I'm married with children than who I was/am dating during the preamble.

[Keeviin]

Look at the cow chewing grass, or the pig rolling in the mud, having all their needs satisfied: They have plenty of food, plenty of sex (and dirty one too), plenty of social interaction with their herd/family (as far as they have not been sold as burgers yet). But is this something to aspire, is this really happiness?

My point:
-> Happiness has a complicated etymology and as such is often confused with simple content, or the satisfaction of basic needs. Also less basic ones (car, iphone) - it's all a big marketing scam. Thus, happiness is overrated.

[hala]

maybe not happy yet---but determined to be, always.

grateful for what I do have; yes. :)