Why do girls always have to break your heart?

[Barts]

why does it always have to happen???

[s.ketch]

Girls are icky.

[NoSeRider]

It's about money.

Actually, I've met some icky guys too. However, I don't wanna be with guys, honest.

[Tarashi]

because we males are an emotionally weak species. it dates back to caveman time i think back when we bashed our women in the head and kidnapped them. but, eh, it could just be that we allow oursleves to get emotionally attached to the statically weaker sex and we are at a loss when we have no one to protect. but those are scientificy ideas. otherwise, I've got no flipping clue. it sucks.women hold such power over the male's emotions it's not even funny anymore. sigh.

[Oni Rem]

Tell us what happen Barts


well here is something i found...hope it helps

http://i135.photobucket.com/albums/q147/Shadowkhon/proofthatgirlsareevil.jpg

[Wooly ESS]

They don't all break your heart.

Find the right one, and they will stick with you forever.

I know, I've been married a very long time.

[Elwell]

You'll live.

[Mirana]

pfft. Boys break hearts just as easily. I was friends with quite a few "player" types in hs and college. After they'd worked their way through a bunch of girls, always whining about how they couldn't understand why the gals wouldn't leave them alone after one-night stands and the like they'd ALWAYS go off and find a girl who they fell heads-over-heels for. And then that girl wouldn't be interested or would dump them quickly.

Ah karma.

[daestwen]

I don't break hearts. I'd tell you point-blank that i'd prefer Keira Knightly over you. :P

That being said, it's because humans have a tendency to get way too emotionally attached...

[Slash]

Elwell's right. You'll live. Sometimes you get burnt, but thats just how that stuff works. In a month or two you'll be banging models and wondering what the big deal about your ex was anyways. ;)

[Nrx]

Hi, i would also like to rant;


ANGHGHGDJSHNSFDGJHJSDHGSKJDHGSDKJHSDGFHSGJHGSDFJ#! !!!!

friday night, im telling a friend about this girl, and how she drives me wild when she says my name.

Today she just decides to repeat my name, like its magic or some shit "hihi is that your full name? daniel, dan-i-el or just dan"

God damnit..... and i sware she has a thing for me, but shes got a boyfriend so i dont wanna make a move and seem like a prat if she dosn't, how the hell do you tell..

Anyone got any advice for a frustrated soul, preferably that wont place them in prison.

Rant over. Back to art, the understanderble love in my life

[Ilaekae]

Dammit! Don't you assholes read the operating manuals any more? It's right there on page 17...in bold italic...

[John]

page 17:

Do not get overly emotionally attached to every girl you meet. There's other ones. They also have primary as well as secondary sexual organs, and they will intoxicate you hormonally just like the one you've got hangups about at the moment does. Grow some balls.
Also, Illustrator is a toy for real men.

[Queen Nehalania]

Aww, I am very sorry to hear that. It is a very troubling time when you have to deal with heart ache.
I know because I've been there with my 1st boyfriend who was an emotional abuser no good.

The man I'm with now is the love of my life.
You'll meet the right girl, but until then take it easy and try to take your mind off it. It's one of the hardest things to do, but time will heal.

[Jasonwclark]

Once your fiancée cheats on you with your best friend and leaves you holding the bag, then you can say whatever you want about the 'evilness of women.' Until then, instead of thinking in terms of boys and girls, try to remember that some people are just cruel and it really has nothing to do with gender. As for the broken heart, don't go throwing yourself off the cliff just yet. A broken heart can be mended, but if you let it turn to stone it's liable to shatter on you, and that's a lot harder to recover from.

You want my advice, take some of that energy that you used to spend on your beloved, and put it back into yourself. Aristophanes probably had it all wrong anyway... but even if he hit the nail on the head, chances are your soul mate won't think its very hot if you're all self loathing and bummed out about other women when she comes around.

[Elwell]

There must to be something wrong, CA seems to be redirecting to LiveJournal (http://www.livejournal.com/).

[squidmonk3j]

without broken hearts, there'd be no healing art..s.

[Ilaekae]

"There must to be something wrong, CA seems to be redirecting to LiveJournal."

It's those damn ay-rab izlamicalisimists again...

[DavePalumbo]

because believe it or not, life gets pretty boring without the occasional broken heart. You need these times to know, by comparison, how valuable it is to find happiness with another person.

The highs can't be as good without having seen the low points.

[nonie]

You know, it's really annoying when guys blame *all* women for one failed relationship. Grow the fuck up.

[Costau D]

Watch the movie "Forgetting Sarah Marshall". That will put things into perspective.

Not for the kids...


zv7fHOBm1MA

[Brushcommander]

"Ah, women. They make the highs higher and the lows more frequent."
As Nietzsche would have said

[kev ferrara]

Here's what Frazetta had to say about the topic...

[Barts]

yeah well shit does happen still doesnt stop it from hurting
oh an believe me i am grown the fuck up

[Ilaekae]

Barts, it's all a matter of perspective. Every time one of my "projects" blows up in my face and I count my fingers to make sure they're all there, I get happy rather than sad because I KNOW the next attempt is going to be even BIGGER and more POWERFUL!


MWWhahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahaha... :P

[Barts]

yeah i get it man, its no the fact that this 'project' blew up in my face
rather that 'project' keeps rubbing my face in it.

[Ilaekae]

...well...that's why I prefer explosives to women... :P







...oh...wait. They're pretty much the same, aren't they?

[Barts]

mmmhmmmmmmm

[daestwen]

...well...that's why I prefer explosives to women... :P


Answer:

Women with explosives? Win?

[Ilaekae]

Yum!!!!

[Jason Rainville]

Some people are just "clown-packing goblins," regardless of sex. Sometimes people really just are assholes. And you know what, fuck them. Fuck assholes.

[Sway West]

Generalization of the year goes to...

[kingshaj]

women love you till the end of your days by your side loyal and true.
but only if you run away as fast as you can...


perhaps its the x-chromosome?

[Ermac23]

Question: When do girls always have to break your heart?

Answer: When they discover that you spend more money on maintaining your hair than they do.


Question: When will conceptart.org care?

Answer: Never!


Question: Why come to an art site that isn't deviantart to make generalizations about women, and bitch about your personal problems that are in no way art related?

Answer: who knows...

The real answer to this issue can be found at: www.answerology.com

[N D Hill]

Why do I find albino bunnies to be cute but then when I see 'em up close I get creeped out by their pink eyes?

[serhc]

Some people are just "clown-packing goblins," regardless of sex. Sometimes people really just are assholes. And you know what, fuck them. Fuck assholes.

:ag: :ao: :ad: :al: :ae: :as: :as: :as: :ao: :ad: :ao: :am: :ai: :at: :ae:

(sorry, had to)

[s.ketch]

Fuck assholes.

That'll definitely cause problems with girls.

[Jason Rainville]

That'll definitely cause problems with girls.

Or, a tried and true alternative.

[Mon Chat]

In the absence of a witty/thought provoking/angry message I shall say:

well nothing really, I just enjoy lurking...

[ArtZealot]

In the absence of a witty/thought provoking/angry message I shall say:

well nothing really, I just enjoy lurking...

Yeah same here. I actually had to bite my tongue on this one and just keep my mouth shut.

[kingshaj]

Question: Why come to an art site that isn't deviantart to make generalizations about women, and bitch about your personal problems that are in no way art related?

Answer: who knows...



Question: Why come to an irrelevant thread to bitch about its irrelevance? that is in no way art related?

Answer: who knows...



>>
all joking aside women are great...and every man here will/has broken just as many hearts....if you haven't, your just young. hearts are very fragile indeed...and can break even when handled with the utmost care.

kind of like my ipod.


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[daestwen]

kind of like my ipod.

Mine too! D:

My ipod breaks my heart every day...

[Ermac23]

Question: Why come to an irrelevant thread to bitch about its irrelevance? that is in no way art related?

Answer: who knows...



>>
all joking aside women are great...and every man here will/has broken just as many hearts....if you haven't, your just young. hearts are very fragile indeed...and can break even when handled with the utmost care.

kind of like my ipod.


-

;) Riddle me this Batman: Why come to an irrelevant thread to bitch about an irrelevant bitcher who'se bitching about an irrelevant bitcher if you yourself didnt want to look guilty of the same crime and be a irrelevant bitcher of an irrelevant bitcher, of an irrelevant bitcher?

Note: i'm just messing with u, i'm not trying to troll.

[daestwen]

;) Riddle me this Batman: Why come to an irrelevant thread to bitch about an irrelevant bitcher who'se bitching about an irrelevant bitcher if you yourself didnt want to look guilty of the same crime and be a irrelevant bitcher of an irrelevant bitcher, of an irrelevant bitcher?

well, personally, i'm just here for the food...

[kingshaj]

easy: i just don't have the same aversion to being irrelevant but still like bitching. :lounge:




self conscious edit:
im drawin' :)

[Kezrek]

well, personally, i'm just here for the food...

Ditto. *grabs some cookies and hides on the ceiling; watching, waiting...*

[Hive_minD]

Tell us what happen Barts


well here is something i found...hope it helps

http://i135.photobucket.com/albums/q147/Shadowkhon/proofthatgirlsareevil.jpg

you got it all wrong.. money isn't the root of all evil.. but the root of all PROBLEMS... that is why girl = problems! ;)

Chris

[ArtZealot]

Ditto. *grabs some cookies and hides on the ceiling; watching, waiting...*

Hey, i was hiding on the ceiling watching this first.

[Mon Chat]

Q: why do girls break your heart,

A: so they can enjoy watching you be ripped to shreds on a forum that is totally out of context..

[Hyskoa]

Every case is different really, just record your findings and keep studying them.
Like one would every primate.

[Ilaekae]

Barts, on a serious note...

exactly what have you learned so far after reading this gawd-forsaken thread? :P










HINT: ...anything close to "never ask these clowns ANYTHING" is pretty near in the vicinity...

[dusty imp]

why does it always have to happen???

could it possibly be that you're doing something wrong?
just food for thought.

[Mon Chat]

did someone say food?!

[Slash]

You know, Yutani does have a point. No one is perfect, including you. And if you see a pattern starting to form, like for example girls breaking your heart right after you stop changing your boxers, you might want to look into what can possibly be changed.


But on the other hand, sometimes people just don't click. And in other cases people just do you wrong. So DON'T get hung up on a "what did i do wrong?" tangent. Ask yourself the question and give it some thought, but don't get hung up on that, its not healthy.

[iatriki]

it's because they have that slimy hole...and because they're all nazis

[t i m]

2 cents..

People are only as faithfull as there options.

Loyalty is a myth.

Sooo therefore, make damn sure you're the best option.

[bumskee]

You know, it's really annoying when guys blame *all* women for one failed relationship. Grow the fuck up.

AMEN!.... (but you just broke my heart!....... awwww)

[Evil_Sloth]

Min never touches me anymore, I think he is in love with another man :(

[Costau D]

That'll definitely cause problems with girls.


"it's good God is not a city planner, because why would he put a playground near a sewage system?"

[fanficbug]

Tell us what happen Barts


well here is something i found...hope it helps

http://i135.photobucket.com/albums/q147/Shadowkhon/proofthatgirlsareevil.jpg

Sorry, but the mathemetician in me has to speak up every time I see this joke . . .

Just because girls require time and money doesn't mean that they are made up (or, in other words, equal to) time and money. :P

Sorry to ruin the joke, but it always bugs me to see that, sort of like someone who gets one word wrong to your favorite song. Hahaha ;D

it's because they have that slimy hole...and because they're all nazis

GODWIN'S LAW GODWIN'S LAW GODWIN'S LAW

[Hyskoa]

Sorry, but the mathemetician in me has to speak up every time I see this joke . . .

Just because girls require time and money doesn't mean that they are made up (or, in other words, equal to) time and money. :P

Sorry to ruin the joke, but it always bugs me to see that, sort of like someone who gets one word wrong to your favorite song. Hahaha ;D


No, but it does mean that they have a requirement for evil that proportionally is equal to their own mass. And when one mass consumes a secondairy mass of equal size, they either grow double in size or one element takes over the other.
Since women aren't double the size of men and because due to puberty we can conclude that the original mass isn't kept and because men require "good looks x 1/2th sound mind" we can conclude that evil completely replaces the original mass and women are infact made up of their requirements. This being evil.

[Reign]

Sorry, but the mathemetician in me has to speak up every time I see this joke . . .

Just because girls require time and money doesn't mean that they are made up (or, in other words, equal to) time and money. :P

Sorry to ruin the joke, but it always bugs me to see that, sort of like someone who gets one word wrong to your favorite song. Hahaha ;D


My problem with this equation is that if they require time AND money, then it should be rather "=time+money"... which of course would ruin the joke.
But I still think it's hillarious :)

[Zaxser]

Hey Burt! Remember me from the workshop?

Anyway, I wish you the best of luck. You're a decent artist and you seem like a pretty good guy.

So... maybe it's the beard?

[Hyskoa]

My problem with this equation is that if they require time AND money, then it should be rather "=time+money"... which of course would ruin the joke.
But I still think it's hillarious :)

That would mean they only require time and money once.
In this case, for every unit of time, you'd also need a unit of money.
Simple put, every unit of conversation with woman X you'd need 20 dollars to buy woman X drinks to keep her interested.
What you could say is = total(time)+total(money).
But since it's a never ending equation, the above example is much more usefull and simple.

[fanficbug]

No, but it does mean that they have a requirement for evil that proportionally is equal to their own mass. And when one mass consumes a secondairy mass of equal size, they either grow double in size or one element takes over the other.
Since women aren't double the size of men and because due to puberty we can conclude that the original mass isn't kept and because men require "good looks x 1/2th sound mind" we can conclude that evil completely replaces the original mass and women are infact made up of their requirements. This being evil.

That would mean they only require time and money once.
In this case, for every unit of time, you'd also need a unit of money.
Simple put, every unit of conversation with woman X you'd need 20 dollars to buy woman X drinks to keep her interested.
What you could say is = total(time)+total(money).
But since it's a never ending equation, the above example is much more usefull and simple.

All of that is supposed to be put into the proof, man. ;) http://www.sparknotes.com/math/geometry3/geometricproofs/summary.html

That would mean they only require time and money once.
In this case, for every unit of time, you'd also need a unit of money.
Simple put, every unit of conversation with woman X you'd need 20 dollars to buy woman X drinks to keep her interested.
What you could say is = total(time)+total(money).
But since it's a never ending equation, the above example is much more usefull and simple.

True . . . I can't believe I missed that.

Q.E.D.: We are a couple of nerds. :D

[Hyskoa]

Narf!

[fanficbug]

Narf!

What shall we do tonight?

. . . ;)

Okay, I really am done being all tangential now. I promise.

[Mirana]

People are only as faithfull as there options.

Loyalty is a myth.

Sooo therefore, make damn sure you're the best option.

Wow. Bitter much? ;)

[S.C. Watson]

this thread breaks my heart :/

[Flake]

Is this thread blue because it is sad?

Or is it..nevermind...

Why is the lounge blue?

[S.C. Watson]

Is this thread blue because it is sad?

Or is it..nevermind...

Why is the lounge blue?

the lounge is blue because this thread is sad.

Sad thread.

Sad sad thread. :(

[Flake]

This colour scheme is unsettling, I shall retire to the other corners and go paint something.

Something not blue.

[Pavel Sokov]

seriously though, why is the lounge blue? it would be ok, if it wasnt for the big brown beige box at the bottom

[Ilaekae]

I FUCKIN' like the blue! So shut up already...

...bunch of anal little reactionaries... :P

[Boolean]

A girl broke my heart once. I put all my trust in her, gave her my life, and she broke it.

I guess that's why people don't have heart surgery done on the black market. Hagatha looked so trustworthy too.

[NoSeRider]

...bunch of anal little reactionaries...http://conceptart.org/forums/images/ca_smilies/normal/;P.gif

I like how Ilaekae always reads my mind. I think he has ESP.

[Mirana]

seriously though, why is the lounge blue?

Read the "Deep" thread.

[kingshaj]

the lounge is now officialy designated the deviantart section ...thus the color

[aea]

Or maybe you just keep going back to the same thing no matter how times you've been burnt. Maybe what you "think" is an ideal girl is not ideal at all. Maybe you just don't see people for their faults. Maybe you're a bit of a drama wh*re and need the constant pity trips. Maybe it's a combination of all these things.

All these things are possibilities. But saying it's girls who always break your heart. Well that's immature and irresponsible. You've created more drama for yourself by creating this thread, that's all.

[Molly]

why does it always have to happen???

....ever thought of trying your luck with a guy? you might be more successful...

[Sorknes]

....ever thought of trying your luck with a guy? you might be more successful...

You beat me to it, heh.....








And btw... that's like saying "why does boys always break your heart?".... There's always two, and if you're not happy ever after, there is pretty high chance one will break the others heart.

Now go write "I'm generalizing girls, and I'll never get a good one before I learn how to not do that" about 10 000 times in your sketchbook.

[AlexC]

you better be listening to the smiths right now

[Nerahla]

Originally Posted by t i m View Post
People are only as faithfull as there options.

Loyalty is a myth.

Sooo therefore, make damn sure you're the best option.




Just quoting Bill Maher are ya t i m? I've heard him rantrantrant that one in his stand up and on his show many times.

This blue color is totally bizarre, it's almost like it's not ca.org anymore :nohope:

[petitemistress]

It's those damn ay-rab izlamicalisimists again...

um no no, that def wasnt us, Ilaekae! try the communist bastards a couple of countries up! :P :P

[Ilaekae]

You're absolutely correct. It's probably those damn communist bastards up north...

...and France

...and that one icky town in Italy that smells like old sneakers.

...and those sheep shaggers who stand on their heads... :P

[Elwell]

You're absolutely correct. It's probably those damn communist bastards up north...
We haz been haxxored by teh Canadians?

...and France

Oh Noes! Teh FRENCH Canadians!

[Jason Rainville]

We haz been haxxored by teh Canadians?


Oh Noes! Teh FRENCH Canadians!

Mais non, pas moi! :O
-----------------

ahhh what the hell:
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[Elwell]

Mais non, pas moi! :O


I can't read your crazy moon language!!!!!!!

[petitemistress]

Oh Noes! Teh FRENCH Canadians!

Elwell... I think you've hit the true root of all that is evil right there... unless there are islamist french Canadians... /SHUDDERS :P

God help us all!!

Edit: Jason, tu parles francais? je ne suis donc pas seule sur ce forum?? it is time for us to kill them all, alors qu'ils ne se doutent encore de rien... xD :P

[JL.Alfaro]

..


I like turtles.







..

[Jason Rainville]

Edit: Jason, tu parles francais? je ne suis donc pas seule sur ce forum?? it is time for us to kill them all, alors qu'ils ne se doutent encore de rien... xD :P

Sorry I can only speak fake french (le jean cretien de la beouf aujourd'hui) being a double agent and all. Now I've just exposed your plan... to... well I don't know, since I don't speak french, but damnit it looks pretty sinister.

[JL.Alfaro]

J'aime les tortues?

[petitemistress]

Drats! I've been had! and by a Canadian! Again!
I think my world-domination-breaking-boys'-hearts days are over... :sadcheerleader:

[DavePalumbo]

and the thread descends into :am::aa::ad::an::ae::as::as:!

[Jason Rainville]

J'aime les tortues?

non. J'aime l'ours, qui mange le tortues! muahahaha...

Oh wait, I can't speak french uh... oui oui hon hon?

and the thread descends into madness

was it ever sane to begin with?

[Costau D]

MMmmque?

[petitemistress]

L'ours mange les tortues..? really?? :( :( :(

[FlameDragon]

I agree that many of them break hearts. I'm not even in a romantic situation but I have friends that I do alot for and show alot of interest in, but they still seem not to care that much about me at all. What I do is that I'll just find people who are interested in me. Like I may be saddened by this one girl, but then in school some girls would start conversations with me and demonstrate care about my life. There's so many people in the world that I'm not going to devote so much thought or emotion toward one individual, especially if they dont appreciate my efforts.

[fanficbug]

..


I like turtles.







..

Wow, what a coincidence. So do I!

[JL.Alfaro]

bears eatin turtles? i think not

[fanficbug]

Uh-oh, now Molly's going to kill you for being lolpets into it . . .

[chaosrocks]

but small turtles are such a lovely cure for heart break...... caused by either gender. thanks Joe

roxie

[daestwen]

non. J'aime l'ours, qui mange le tortues! muahahaha...

Oh wait, I can't speak french uh... oui oui hon hon?

Je ne comprende pas... Tu mange le tortues?

Moi... J'aime les... um... boobies...

:D

[petitemistress]

I do believe the technical term for that is "seins", Daest :P

[kingshaj]

Why do turtles always have to break your heart?


lil' fuckers think there so fucking cute....stuck up lil bastards!







- edit: is that what Prokofiev's Saint Seins is about?

[Sway West]

I'm just fueling the fire, but I can never remember which thread I'm in while browsing the Lounge.

[daestwen]

I'm just fueling the fire, but I can never remember which thread I'm in while browsing the Lounge.

Yeah. I'm pretty sure the Canadian Invasion first happened in the 'BLUE' thread, so... :P

[Mon Chat]

and the thread descends into :am::aa::ad::an::ae::as::as:!

Madness...? THIS IS C A!!

I'm so so so sorry guys... but it just came out... I hit that quote button and after that... well...

[Molly]

Uh-oh, now Molly's going to kill you for being lolpets into it . . .


haha:)- but that tortoise is cute tho, and the spelling is correct- I shall refrain from commenting...damn so close to using a profanity ...

bollocks to it.....


mx

[ArtZealot]

What were we talking about again?...i forgot.

Anyone seen speed racer yet? it's pretty good.

[petitemistress]

Speed Racer!! I wanted to say it yest, but the theater hasnt released it yet bcz of the current situation here... booo :(

[TASmith]

This is one of those topics where my own 2cents don't mean a damn, but I'm gonna try and post 'em anyway because it's a worthwhile subject, and I'm curious on a couple things.

First caveat: yes the thread starter spoke a generalization and guys can also be heartbreakers, granted. On the other hand I'm a guy, I can only speak from one side. Oh, and I should also point out I am certainly not a heart breaker or player, and never have been. I'm not the most experienced in relationships, even though I've been married for four years now.

Second caveat: I forget who the thread starter even is but I know he didn't give any specifics, so how can anyone begin to answer the question in his case?

I can't speak for anyone but myself, but in my case the problem was this: I had three different feelings toward women:

lust: the basest, based on physical appearance, which could apply to any pretty woman.

attraction: an admiration or enjoyment from being with a certain girl. Maybe she was funny, smart, observant, courageous, who knows. These were girls I felt I should love, and I never understood why I didn't. There were even a couple awkward situations where I tried dating some of these girls and just had the most boring, bland conversations about weather or family or how to make the college better, favorite comedians/movies, etc. Even tried making out with one of these girls and it just didn't work at all.

love: best described by Stephen King as, "a mixture of equal parts lust and astonishment". Basically a feeling that slapped me silly and left me destroyed, and I never knew why I even felt it. The girls were just fascinating and I wanted to spend all my time with them. I remember sometimes feeling real, physical pleasure in my head just thinking about them - like someone poured a glass of sugarwater in my ear and my brain just soaked it up like a sponge. I'm also curious if anyone's felt this way and if it's even healthy.

In highschool the first girl I fell for was a ditzy party girl, who acted stupid to be funny (shouting and giggling theatrically, pretending not to know answers in class, etc), but somehow WAS a ton of fun to be around. She never gave me the time of day and I got over it.. after a couple years. The second girl was more virtuous but still just as fun - always wanting to go on adventures, long drives, long boat rides, triathalons, mountain climbing, playing live concerts, etc. She played with my heart like a cute little kitten on a ball of string (imagine Ilaekae's av with string), and then tossed it away, or ate it or something. I couldn't dance or play base guitar and that was that. Being virtuous and all she fell completely in love with some other guy who could dance and play base and they're still together like a decade later.

Then I fell in love with a cute slovak girl, got hitched, got a babe and moved out to Europe. Still don't know exactly why I love her but I do, it's just a feeling. Sometimes I think my heart's just autistic and I'm stuck with it. I wonder if anyone else feels the same way. I also have a theory that when you're young, you fall in love with someone you subconsciously know won't really love you back - so that you're bound to wind up heartbroken. It's some crazy evolutionary way to make you understand and value the importance of love. Just a theory. Anywho, a couple points:

1. Just as in the terrible movie Hitch, some women pick men the way they pick out clothes, and dump them just as quick. Some men just see women as a sexual challenge and lose interest once that's over.

2. Just as in the terrible movie Hitch, and as in any nature movie where a male is chasing a female, etc., society is pretty much set so that the guy needs to go after the girl and "win" her, through some great achievement on his part (this is all another generalization, granted) The girl is the one who agrees or rejects the male, and she always wants to feel like she's getting the best deal - that's she's so lucky to have bagged the perfect guy. For gazelles this means he must run the fastest and have the biggest horns. For women this can mean he's the most romantic, family oriented, bravest, or even tallest - the main thing being most respectable. There's also some statistics (and my memory's a bit rusty on Jared Diamond) that people tend to pick mates most physically like themselves and their parents. So without knowing anything about your situation, you somehow didn't "win her heart" through any special acts, she didn't respect you enough, and you weren't enough like her dad.

3. Just because you love someone it doesn't make them a good person. Many people have problems getting out of abusive relationships because they can't get around this one.

4. No matter how much two people love each other, there's always one who loves the other more. If a couple isn't careful this can lead to problems: one fearing the other will leave, doing whatever the other wants as a result, etc.

5. Time does heal all wounds, but you need a lot of it. One thing that helps is getting out, meeting new people (even when you don't want to), not jumping into any new relationships, and also a change of scenery. After that second girl I went to Italy for a year and forgot a great deal about her. My grades also came back up as a result.

All of this probably doesn't help which is why you have to give Ilaekae credit for choosing the right attitude from the start. The second I saw that AV I knew it was gonna be something funny and right on target and I wasn't let down.

Il, do you make any comic strips? You would be perfect at it, or any other kind of comedic graphic art. Every post makes me want to see your art more and more - someone get me a link already! (if my pestering is annoying it's only because I feel I'm missing out on something great)

[fanficbug]

love: best described by Stephen King as, "a mixture of equal parts lust and astonishment". Basically a feeling that slapped me silly and left me destroyed, and I never knew why I even felt it. The girls were just fascinating and I wanted to spend all my time with them. I remember sometimes feeling real, physical pleasure in my head just thinking about them - like someone poured a glass of sugarwater in my ear and my brain just soaked it up like a sponge. I'm also curious if anyone's felt this way and if it's even healthy.

I think you hit the nail on the head here. :) My husband and I actually had problems when we were first dating because he couldn't understand why he both wanted to be around me and talk to me all the time, and wanted to get into my pants all the time. :D It took him a while to understand that lust and companionship can coexist together just fine. So yes--you're normal and healthy.

There's also some statistics (and my memory's a bit rusty on Jared Diamond) that people tend to pick mates most physically like themselves and their parents. So without knowing anything about your situation, you somehow didn't "win her heart" through any special acts, she didn't respect you enough, and you weren't enough like her dad.

It's more about peoples' perception of beauty than anything else. I've heard two somewhat conflicting theories on this idea. And of course it should be taken with a grain of salt because it's overly simplistic (doesn't take into account gay and lesbian relationships; is only one factor in many for how a person perceives you). The first is that you choose someone who looks like your mother (for guys) or father (for girls) because you see them as beautiful due to how they treated you during childhood. The other is that it's based on genealogy. This article covers both theories but doesn't distinguish between the two. http://www.newscientist.com/article/dn4928-women-marry-men-who-look-like-dad.html

But again, I'd take this with a grain of salt, because it's an overly simplistic theory. A girl is not likely to reject you based on looks alone. Charisma figures into it pretty heavily, as with everything. Some of the hottest guys I've known haven't been "perfect" by society's standards and they haven't looked like my father. Attraction is the key you have to keep in mind. If she's not attracted to you, then it's not anyone's fault. She's just not attracted to you.

But of course we don't know the story, so :P I won't assume that it's an attraction issue, and is instead something a bit more complicated. ;)

[TASmith]

And I should point out, we don't need to know either, I'm not the prying type.

on this quote: "So yes--you're normal and healthy."

Heh, don't speak too soon ;)

[daestwen]

And of course it should be taken with a grain of salt because it's overly simplistic (doesn't take into account gay and lesbian relationships;

Shit, you mean I'm not supposed to be looking for girls that look like my dad?

I think I'd rather hang myself than sleep with someone like my mother... we'd end up killing each other after three days...

:P

[DavePalumbo]

love: best described by Stephen King as, "a mixture of equal parts lust and astonishment"

This definition actually doesn't really satisfy me at all. You mention this leading at times to abusive relationships, and I think it's because it's missing two important things: mutual respect and trust. Without attraction, this is perhaps the sort of love that we feel for friends and family. With attraction, it's the sort that you want to be with somebody indefinitely. In my opinion :shrug:

[Mirana]

2. Just as in the terrible movie Hitch, and as in any nature movie where a male is chasing a female, etc., society is pretty much set so that the guy needs to go after the girl and "win" her, through some great achievement on his part [...] So without knowing anything about your situation [...] you weren't enough like her dad.

Ah the theories we come up with to rationalize that which is not rational. :D Incidentally, I was the one who introduced myself, asked him out, and asked him to marry me. I chased him. He did admit to feeling a little like he'd not done his part because he'd not gotten the chance to propose to me...but if I'd waited he'd have taken years to get it just right and buy a ridiculous ring. I'd rather have him than the "perfect moment."

Also, he is so not my father. Or my grandfathers. Taller, leaner, different facial structure from being half pollack (just about the only euro decent I'm not), more hair and a completely different personality. ;)

There is no "fix all," just speculation. At least we try.

[Arshes Nei]

Why is it that people are human?

[Gloominati]

I......feel....the......pain....................ca n't stand it..........need to........

http://kamelopedia.mormo.org/images/thumb/9/99/Elephant_penis.jpg/800px-Elephant_penis.jpg

UAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAHOHOAHOAHOAHAO..... .that was good...

[fanficbug]

And I should point out, we don't need to know either, I'm not the prying type.

on this quote: "So yes--you're normal and healthy."

Heh, don't speak too soon ;)

True and, well, true. XD

Shit, you mean I'm not supposed to be looking for girls that look like my dad?

I know, I was just so surprised when someone told me to. I mean, hot diggety damn, the BEST girls look like my father. :D

I......feel....the......pain....................ca n't stand it..........need to........

http://kamelopedia.mormo.org/images/thumb/9/99/Elephant_penis.jpg/800px-Elephant_penis.jpg

UAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAHOHOAHOAHOAHAO..... .that was good...

WTF? XD

[AwesomCherryBlossom]

I think I am subscribing to this thread...
And ya know... I just have to add...even when it's just friendships... girls can say the meanest things.
My best friend of two years "dumped" me a few days ago...
Told me I was annoying her a lot, that we had nothing in common *does one need everything in common to be friends?*, and that I should grow up and join the real world. *by the way, all my friends tell me that, then say that there are no nude models in college art classes...which is fail-tastic cause my mom has been to two college art classes and they had nude models...*

She told me all of this because I asked the innocent question of-
Do you like being my friend?
Her and her sister have said the meanest things I have ever heard...all directed at me. Even called me a lot of names. They caused me to cry more in my life than I ever wanted to, made me trust them with everything, and then shoved it in my face and in essence, mocked me with it...
I am thankful for the good times she gave me, thankful for a bit of the bad, cause it made me realize just how some people are, and that you can't let it eat at you.
And in the end...I am more relieved than I ever have been in my life...
So far, guys have just been nicer to talk to... I dunno why. I guess SOME *not all* girls are just brain ninjas, seeking their next victim :dead:
Some guys are weirdos too... but not all are.. and it's nice when you find the good ones.

[Costau D]

Dude, if she hurt you so much in the past who's fault is it then if you kept sticking with it?

[AwesomCherryBlossom]

That is a very good question.... :(

[fanficbug]

Her and her sister have said the meanest things I have ever heard...all directed at me. Even called me a lot of names. They caused me to cry more in my life than I ever wanted to, made me trust them with everything, and then shoved it in my face and in essence, mocked me with it...

Well, you don't deserve that. I know it's tough but try to think of it this way: it's good that you're getting away from these two girls, even if they "dumped" you. You can dump them right back by not taking their shit and finding better friends. Trust me, those better friends are out there. Just stay around people who treat you right. You deserve to be treated well--now all you have to do is find people who agree with this sentiment and life will start to look up!

CosmoChimp, I know you are trying to be helpful, but the cycle of "I choose bad friends-->bad friends hurt me-->I deserve bad friends-->I choose bad friends" is a rough one to see and it is even rougher to get out of. Cut the (guy) (GIRL, GIRL DAMMIT) some slack.

EDIT: See, even I do that which I complain most about. Sorry about that, gal.

[B u r l]

this is why i usually avoid humans in general. :|

[AwesomCherryBlossom]

Oh my, I am a girl not a boy O_O.
And thank you fanficbug. Thats what I am trying to do now. I believe she had something against me being an artist /:| I dunno... She once did get snippy at me for awhile cause she felt like she had no talent. She was also a feminist who thought guys were in general worthless, and only good for sex. I had a completely different view on things and we often argued about the subject. So that was another "divider".

[DavePalumbo]

She was also a feminist who thought guys were in general worthless I think, and only good for sex

being a feminist and hating men are two very different things, just want to say. Some people like to combine them, but one does not require the other :)

[ciots]

i think the reasonable answer would be to say that everyone can be and is, an asshole, live with it or sleep with it.

i think that made sense..

[fanficbug]

being a feminist and hating men are two very different things, just want to say. Some people like to combine them, but one does not require the other :)

Seconded. :)

[Steph Laberis]

Usually when a statement contains "(x) type of people" and "always do this", I pull up a chair and a tub of popcorn. Sweeping generalizations are fun to watch as they unravel!

[AwesomCherryBlossom]

being a feminist and hating men are two very different things, just want to say. Some people like to combine them, but one does not require the other :)

Aha, which is why I said -She was also a feminist WHO thought guys were in general worthless-
NOT She was also a feminist SO SHE thought guys were in general worthless.

[dusty imp]

being a feminist and hating men are two very different things, just want to say. Some people like to combine them, but one does not require the other :)

the term is 'misandry', the counterpart to misogyny.
because knowledge is power!

[Jason Rainville]

Sweeping generalizations are fun to watch as they unravel!

Not all the time.

[Ilaekae]

Oh, c'mon, Jason... Don't tell me you wouldn't get off sitting on your roof with a case of beer and popcorn watching the entire neighborhood turn into one giant mud wrestling event... :P

[Jason Rainville]

Oh, c'mon, Jason... Don't tell me you wouldn't get off sitting on your roof with a case of beer and popcorn watching the entire neighborhood turn into one giant mud wrestling event... :P

Twas a joke on generalizations. I will stop trying to be funny :)

and, make it mud mixed with jello and frosting and I'm there.

[Grumbledook]

Twas a joke on generalizations. I will stop trying to be funny :)

and, make it mud mixed with jello and frosting and I'm there.

I got it Jason, was a bit high brow for our Ilaekae ;]

[s.ketch]

I got a bad haircut once. Worst day of my life.

[Barts]

this has turned into a monster

[fionkell]

Where's the flaming horse-rider?!

[Elwell]

this has turned into a monster
Congratulations, you're a daddy.
http://www.horrorstew.com/images/Frankenstein002.jpg

[Barts]

hahah indeed i am, threads bigger than my SB :O

[Ilaekae]

Now that's INCENTIVE for something if I ever heard it... :P

[TASmith]

"made me trust them with everything, and then shoved it in my face and in essence, mocked me with it..."

Hector Berlioz, Symphonie Fantastique. Look it up. Great clarinet solo at the end.

[NoSeRider]

Where's the flaming horse-rider?!

You guys are flaming without me quite nicely.

[Carnifex]

why is it i always let my feelings get involved when i look at these kinda threads and instantly draw conclusions to my own life and come out all depressed in the end?

it's like a drug...

[NoSeRider]

When I was growing up, you'd use to get ashamed if you got a spontanuous boner and apoligized to your girlfriend.....then you get older and worry about erectile dysfunction. You can't win.

Hey, relationships change as you get older.

Don't trust anybody over 30, and people under 30 are neurotic narcissistic idiots. So, if you're a neurotic narcissistic idiot, why should you expect any different from your partner?

Thas was a good flame. I like that. :anime:

[fanficbug]

"made me trust them with everything, and then shoved it in my face and in essence, mocked me with it..."

Hector Berlioz, Symphonie Fantastique. Look it up. Great clarinet solo at the end.

Oooh, more music to look up. :D

[TASmith]

There's a story behind it too, that's fitting ;)

[gruve24]

Usually when a statement contains "(x) type of people" and "always do this", I pull up a chair and a tub of popcorn. Sweeping generalizations are fun to watch as they unravel!

funny thing is, generalizations are generally true..

[Mon Chat]

funny thing is, generalizations are generally true..

put this thread down and walk away. you dont know where its been.