I Love Jasmine

[bhanu]

I really dont know how to start this .
Jasmine(beautiful name, isnt it?), is a girl i am in love with .For a change she likes me too..

She thinks shes not beautiful , I beg to differ....shes my muse .....shes that beautiful.
I want to make her happy......Really she deserves to be the happiest person in the world.I want to make her happy because she makes me so happy...I cant explain..........I love her...
what more can I say?

I liked her initially , didnt give it much thought, never thought that shed like me back or stuff...so I never expressed myself...I am a wuss , I know .But she said she had a thing for me....but called me a kid (I am 20 , shes 26.....)She thought she was too old for me..I think shes too beautiful for me , but I am lucky that I am with her.

Our first date was unusual ....I went to her place, we had halwa(an indian dessert), we left to find a couple of stray pups arounf her neighbourhood , who were sick....they had scabies.... we went the vet, ...got the pups some medicine for the pups..got back home...had some gulab jamun...then I met her parents...really cool folks.......then I saw some of her art... boy does she have an aesthetic sense , she makes really beautiful graphic designbased art...dunno why she doesnt do it more often??........Then some chatting and I left..

It was Wierd but it definitely was the best time I had in my life.

Second date was cool , we had cofee and stuff and she paid the bill......
I am 20 , a student...dont blame me for being broke..(btw I am broker at this point of time)
Then after a few days we went to an amusement park with our friends and damn it was fun.........I was a little sick at the end....but It was more than worth it .

I call her gorgeous and she calls me ediot(that e is not a typo). we talk a lot on the phone........still 24 hours seem less....

She understands my passion for art...and knows that I can be busy with it at times and sometimes herself pushes me to draw and paint rather than talk with her.....how cool is that?(for a person to understand my love for art)

She hates japanese girls...because I told her that I had a thing for japanese girls(stupid thing to say ...I know, but I thought I was teasing her)

The day before yesterday she said "I LOVE YOU".I have said it many times..can keep saying it till I die.

yesterday for some reason she was acting wierd....after I asked her, she said that she thinks I am infatuated with her , that we dont gell , blah blah, told me that we'd stay friends...whatever....(
Today she seemed more pissed...she was angry ..with me?....again after some persuasion..... the truth about what was really pissing her off was out.....for some time some friends and she were thinking that I secretly like a friend of hers and she likes me back.... and we are quiet because it might make her(JASMINE) unhappy.......
Its not true....I know it...I want to tell her I love her...

how can I tell her how wrong she is to believe this shit ???
How can I tell her that I love her ....that shes my muse , my goddess?
I want her to be happy ....even if it doesnt work(But god I know It will work)....I want her to have a great life........
My brain has gone to take a piss and I cant think right now.......
YOu guys(the whole CA) are my friends , family...help me please...........
I am lost.........

I LOVE JASMINE......................

[Hyskoa]

Ahh, mindgames. Never worth the trouble.

[Iliada]

Give her a link to this?

[Gloominati]

hmmm I have been thinking almost 5 minutes about if I should post this or not...

Duuuude after I have gone through something similar about a year ago I now see how childish it is..... I think I am just gettin old (wait, I'm 19...) :D

Don't know any nice advice for ya in this place, all of it will pass, trust me on that one ;)

[Micaiah Nelson]

Do you love her man?!

Dude, you do?!

Then what are you doing, Run to her!

[digital_zombie]

Being a woman (i'm 25 myself) I can tell you that she needs reassurance and that most women no matter what they say have some confidence/self esteem issues, especially with your comment about Japanese girls (which are usually gorgeous IMHO), it can feel threatening (even if in jest).

I'm not sure the deal with her saying she loves you then starts being pissy b/c she thinks you and a friend have chemistry....what would make her think that?..."love" is serious and shouldn't be thrown around if one's not absolutely sure it's right and by date #2 it seems a bit too soon to be saying it...maybe that's just me, but how long have you known her?

She might have some issues with age....I know being 25, I had a boy (he was 18) obsessed with me....I don't think that I could be with a guy 7 years younger...it seems...wrong...lol He was really nice and all, but still very immature and no sense of responsibility.

I don't know what to say besides tell her the truth, show her your feelings, and if it's going to happen it will happen, if not now, then maybe later, be friends and live life....you'd be surprised at what can happen when you least expect it.

[rustikof]

here's my advice---

stop bein a wuss and get some confidence man! girls love a guy who is sure in himself and what he believes---but, don't cross the line where that confidence becomes arrogance.

stop beating around the bush and put it out there. let her know how you feel. if its meant to be, it'll work out, if not, well--it sucks, but you gotta move forward. I've found communication with women is key to a healthy relationship. you can't just assume she knows what you are secretly thinking, you have to actually let her know with your words AND actions....don't just sit there and be all emo and let it stew inside you. that doesn't help either party.

good luck sir, hopefully this will be you and her someday:lifedrawing:

[Barts]

welcome to the troubles women can inflict upon your brain!

[Jabo]

I really dont know how to start this .
Jasmine(beautiful name, isnt it?), is a girl i am in love with .For a change she likes me too..

She thinks shes not beautiful , I beg to differ....shes my muse .....shes that beautiful.
I want to make her happy......Really she deserves to be the happiest person in the world.I want to make her happy because she makes me so happy...I cant explain..........I love her...
what more can I say?

I liked her initially , didnt give it much thought, never thought that shed like me back or stuff...so I never expressed myself...I am a wuss , I know .But she said she had a thing for me....but called me a kid (I am 20 , shes 26.....)She thought she was too old for me..I think shes too beautiful for me , but I am lucky that I am with her.

Our first date was unusual ....I went to her place, we had halwa(an indian dessert), we left to find a couple of stray pups arounf her neighbourhood , who were sick....they had scabies.... we went the vet, ...got the pups some medicine for the pups..got back home...had some gulab jamun...then I met her parents...really cool folks.......then I saw some of her art... boy does she have an aesthetic sense , she makes really beautiful graphic designbased art...dunno why she doesnt do it more often??........Then some chatting and I left..

It was Wierd but it definitely was the best time I had in my life.

Second date was cool , we had cofee and stuff and she paid the bill......
I am 20 , a student...dont blame me for being broke..(btw I am broker at this point of time)
Then after a few days we went to an amusement park with our friends and damn it was fun.........I was a little sick at the end....but It was more than worth it .

I call her gorgeous and she calls me ediot(that e is not a typo). we talk a lot on the phone........still 24 hours seem less....

She understands my passion for art...and knows that I can be busy with it at times and sometimes herself pushes me to draw and paint rather than talk with her.....how cool is that?(for a person to understand my love for art)

She hates japanese girls...because I told her that I had a thing for japanese girls(stupid thing to say ...I know, but I thought I was teasing her)

The day before yesterday she said "I LOVE YOU".I have said it many times..can keep saying it till I die.

yesterday for some reason she was acting wierd....after I asked her, she said that she thinks I am infatuated with her , that we dont gell , blah blah, told me that we'd stay friends...whatever....(
Today she seemed more pissed...she was angry ..with me?....again after some persuasion..... the truth about what was really pissing her off was out.....for some time some friends and she were thinking that I secretly like a friend of hers and she likes me back.... and we are quiet because it might make her(JASMINE) unhappy.......
Its not true....I know it...I want to tell her I love her...

how can I tell her how wrong she is to believe this shit ???
How can I tell her that I love her ....that shes my muse , my goddess?
I want her to be happy ....even if it doesnt work(But god I know It will work)....I want her to have a great life........
My brain has gone to take a piss and I cant think right now.......
YOu guys(the whole CA) are my friends , family...help me please...........
I am lost.........

I LOVE JASMINE......................

Good on you :)

[lavhoes]

How long have you known her? From your post, it doesn't seem like that long of a while. I'm worried that if you've only just met her a little while ago that she may be correct, that this may in fact be infatuation. Love is a beautiful but painfully slow thing. It takes a while to really cement. That's not to say what you're feeling isn't true, but it may more accurately be described as a spark or a connection towards her.

The fact that she sprang the l-word on you is irrelevant; I've dated women who've leapt at the first chance to say it with no provocation whatsoever. One girl professed her love for me on the first date. People in general tend to get caught up in their emotions and go just a teensy bit overboard with it. Again, don't take this as an insult to you, because it's not; I'm sure that you and her do have a connection, given what you've said.

I have faith that, under the right circumstances, this thing you have with her could blossom into a beautiful relationship, and eventually love. But for now it's just a connection, nothing more, because there hasn't been time enough to build an emotional cushion for your relationship with her. Right now, for both you and her, your feelings are extremely sudden, and thus extremely volatile, which means they're likely to swing wildly at what should by all rights be nothing. Her saying you should remain friends could be her fear bubbling to the surface, or her apprehension about rushing into something, or her just seeing you as a good buddy. It could mean a million things. And it's not worth it to fret over it, because you won't get a straight answer until you're far enough from the situation to view it without the hazy glasses your emotions put on your face.

So what to do? Well, I will tell you this much: pushing the issue has, from my experience, only led to misery. It's a very delicate situation, so suddenly wanting to eke out resolution or reassurance from it will only deepen the cracks and cause the whole thing to fall apart. Trust me on this, banging on her door professing your love and demanding a response will only lead her to viewing you as insecure and unconfident, and that's not how you are at all! And it seems to me, from the situation you described with her jealousy, that she's looking for reassurance as well. The best way to provide that is not to act gushy and sappy, because even if that works it'll eventually backfire on you. The best way is to show interest in her. It's what us fellas are good at! Ask her out on another date. Hold her hand, kiss her, cement that connection with action, not words! Professing whatever feelings you have for her doesn't work nearly as well as making her see it through your actions.

So to sum it all up, right now, your best bet is to take her out on another date. Don't look for a big gesture to profess your love. Don't stand outside her window with a boombox blaring. Don't tattoo her name onto your chest. Just ask her out, and kiss her. That's all she needs, and that's all you need, and it's what'll keep this connection you have with her alive.

[AlexC]

why don't you draw her a beautiful picture that shows her how much she means for you?

[corky13]

listen to lavhoes. I had enough misery with the women , and really ugly stuff has happened because of my or the girls fault just because of acting insecure , too fast et cetera. I , for myself , am thinking that love doesn`t really exist. Just different levels of friendship combined with mens lust for sex. Makes my live a lot easier , but kinda dull...

So if you really love her be careful and don`t be too fast. A lesson that I learned after many failures...

[stoph]

why don't you draw her a beautiful picture that shows her how much she means for you?

napoleon dynamite-esque? awesome idea! spend like 3 hours on the shading on her upper lip :P

on a more serious note, i can tell you now that girls have an uncanny ability to get angry first, ask questions later. even if they know theres little to no truth in the rumours, their natural prerogadive is to blow up and let themselves get hurt by the thought of you doing some unspeakable thing, before cooling down and realising their biggest fears have not come to fruition. i may be generalising here, and i apologise to those of the female persuasion who do not fit this stereotype, but in my experience, this is how things go down.

the best thing you can do is be honest and up-front with her, tell her how it is - you love her, you've done nothing wrong, would sit a lie detector test and rather lose your right nut than to have her despair over this baseless rumour and lose her love for it. then, leave her to cool down on her own. leave the occasional text or voice message, letting her know that you havent gone anywhere, that youre not angry for it, that you will give her space and love her from afar until she feels she can sit down and talk things through with you. if she loves you (which she has said she does, which is no mean feat), then this is not the end for you two. the only people who can ultimately say when a relationship is over or not is you and your girl. this is about you two, and nobody else. if she needs to talk to her friend who allegedly has feelings for you and get things straightened out and out in the open, then by all means, have her talk with her too.

either way, just hang in there. all my life i've been involved with and/or surrounded by girls that have had massive trust issues, insecurities, self-doubts, the whole shabang. its like im a magnet for drama. i'm still here, i'm still alive and i've grown and matured and am stronger for every experience to come my way.

hang in there.

[Dizon]

C'mon, Bhanu...Be her Alladdin!!!